where do i start? i am so angry i have burst into tears of rage.
we have 2 cats, got them when they were babies. 2 brothers, both are neutered. they live in the house in the day and go out at night. we dont have a cat flap so it's down to us to let them in and out. for a year and a half this arrangement has worked very well.
about 6 months ago, one of our cats stopped coming home every night. needless to say we were worried sick but after about a week, he came home. ever since then there will be a few nights he doesnt come home and then turns up again. he always looks well so we know wherever he goes he's safe and gets fed.
to cut a long story short, we've discovered that he seems to have decided to have TWO homes and spends quite a bit of time at someone's house in the next village to ours.
she already has a cat so presumably he has access to food. she phones us every time he shows up - sometimes after days though - and we go and collect him. we've asked her if she wants him and she doesnt cos her own cat doesnt like ours - which is fair enough.
well she phoned me yesterday to tell me he was there and did we want to go and pick him up, then she said "he's just having his dinner just now, so maybe after that". so now i know why he goes there!!! i asked her to stop feeding him when she could (appreciating that she would sometimes be out and couldnt) and also to put him out. she said she couldnt put him out becuase he 'dirtied her windows'. i told her I'd come and clean her bleedin windows if that were the case, but he wouldnt stop visitng her unless she started to make it less comfortable for him! anyway, we ended the conversation - presumably both feeling frustrated. in the end, in attempt to get her to listen, i said we'd either have to rehome him far away or else get him put down (i have no intention of getting him put down but i needed to make her understand that she wastn helping the situation)
she's just phoned me, to tell me that the reason he left home "was because i didnt feed him enough when he was a young cat, so he left becuase hewas hungry". i hung up on her i was so angry. then she phoned back and told me that i had given her a 'lecture' yesterday which she hadnt appreciated and that she'd lain awake all night worrying abut the cat.
i am sooooo angry i cant function. as i said, we have 2 brothers, both of whom have unlimited food - their bowls are never empty - and if we are so bad, why is the other cat still here???
she went on and on and on and wouldnt listen to a word i said, told me i had to rehome him to the country and that i shouldnt have told her not to feed him and to put him out.
how can i get her to realise that SHE is part of the problem?
why are people so horrible?
