lol he is that brother 
You'll find your Mr Right - he's out there, just have to be fussy in your search (my tagline on POF was, "Do you own a pair of wellies?" and anyone that didn't was instantly discounted. Ian won when he replied saying he lived in wellies as if he wasn't working, he was looking after the sheep or walking his dog. Hooked! 
Mind if I pinch that? I wasn't sure how picky to be since nothing is working at the mo. I don't want to be limited to just this island and I am more than willing to do mainland trips but how do I convey that without being desperate?!
Just say that you make frequent trips to the mainland.
I'm finding this very interesting, especially how much more acceptable dating sites have become.
I do think though that if you feel you are getting desperate then you give out signs of desperation that you're not aware of, but will be picked up on by any potential blokes. That is likely to scare them off. Try to be laid back about getting to know people. You never know, you might already know your future mate but you just haven't realised it.
One of my sisters-in-law was starting to feel her biological clock ticking away, so agreed to marry a rather creepy chap (or I find him creepy) They have been married for a while now, and have children and a life, but she is very unhappy and struggling to find a way to separate their lives. So allow time for a friendship to develop before you start thinking of wedding bells - friendship lasts well beyond the initial excitement of marriage. I don't know why I'm giving advice - I was married at 20, long before I ever expected to be, so I don't know what it's like to be on my own.
