[pharnorth]

My sister met someone on lines he was just past 50 and pretty demoralised after a classic run off with a younger woman scenario divorce. As happy as can be now. The good thing about being post teen and post pub and night club hook up is you chose on personality rather than crowd appeal. Met my husband through an intro agency when we mid thirties he wasn't in wellies but he certainly is now!  Best of luck if one agency doesn't suit try another.  I did do one singles night it was not for me though.

[waterbuffalofarmer]

Be very careful on any dating sites POF has quite a  few dodgy people on it, I know that from experience There is another few which may be worth a try, classicfm romance it is very good from reputation and monitored. As with any dating site be very careful who you talk to/meet as they may not be all they say they're. The best way to meet people though is going to meetings and the such or gatherings. I have done that a few times, but always been too shy with talking to guys. Communication skills are my issue, but if you have those it is really easy. I am sure in time the right one will come along, patience is key and don't rush it or you may end up being with the wrong person for the sake of being with someone. I was desperate to meet someone not so long ago, but I have had to tell myself to bide my time and the right person will come along. In the meantime I am enjoying thr freedom of being single!

[Jas]

When my ex ran off with my 'best mate' I tried plenty of fish
Seemed lots of desperate women out there but I did meet my OH on it and we have been VERY happily together for 7 years now. Definitely worth a look

[Jukes Mum]

This!

go off and live the life that will make you happy on your own. Don't do it timidly - grab it with both hands. Do that, and there's a really good chance that love will then bite you on the bum when you least expect it, as there's nothing more attractive than somebody who's living their passion  .

[Cuddles]

Jeez!  ex's running off with best friends, women getting men to wear wellies, photo's of gentlements appendages!  This all sounds more Jackie Collins that TAS!   

There's always the app that you swipe left or right on... I'm sure it can be used for whatever you want it to be, I've know at least one mate that is 3 yrs into a relationship with someone he met on Tinder. 
(...for those asking what an app is... there was a thread last week about it... so I'm not going there again!  )

Alternatively, if you are on the rock, fain an interest in sailing.  You might find Mr right has his own super yacht too!

[Dan]

Alternatively, maybe it's time for [member=1]Dan[/member] to add a new board on TAS...

We had a TAS Singles board in 2010/11 and there were 8 topics in about 15 months, then a period of about 6 months with no posts before I archived it.

Very happy to revive it if there's demand and see how it goes.

Please 'Like' this post or reply below if it's something you think would be a valuable addition. 

[Penninehillbilly]

Careful though - there's a fine line between shameless and desperate!


This is all good advice too 

Was that link supposed to be funny?  That (and the kids one) I thought was normal Life?   , 

[Jullienne]

And here's me thinking this forum is about smallholding only.....

[nutterly_uts]

Loads of good advice here to absorb 

[Dan]

And here's me thinking this forum is about smallholding only.....

Its primary purpose is to provide a forum for the discussion of smallholding and related issues.

Like most forums it's populated by real people, who form a community of interest, and can be geographically diverse. So it also has a secondary purpose to provide whatever additional services we can support that are desired by that community.

We support the Coffee Lounge and a number of sub-boards that are not about smallholding per se. So if there's demand for a 'dating' or similar board, and we can support it, we will.

HTH. 

[nutterly_uts]

I'm quite happy to stick to this thread in here and I don't think we need a separate topic?

I know OD is getting more popular and the success stories are everywhere (as shown here) so I figured lets ask another section of people who have already shown they are wise about all sorts of topics 

[lord flynn]

met my husband online dating 12 years ago, reckon I did the equivalent of winning the lottery-even though on paper, we were not a good match. He was an utter townie, had never had a pet and was nervous around dogs, let alone horses. He had never touched a live chook..  I am a fairly stroppy, animal loving luddite (he's in IT), not a natural kid person (he has two) determined to live in the middle of nowhere in a wind tunnel. ON our profiles we liked each others sense of humour and only exchanged photos when we had arranged to meet (after several emails and phone calls).

[Steph Hen]

I got my husband from match.com. (Tried muddy matches too, but was all mountain bikers and city lads at the time). I had a really good time doing it, some interesting lunches/country walks out meeting people). Thought it worth paying £20/month to find 'the one' and hopefully weed out a few scum bags. There's always some scummy/scavy sorts, but you cangive those the cold shoulder just as if you were on a night out.

For me, I worked out what I wanted (this is a bit sad but I love stats) but thought about my past relationships and worked out all of the traits that I liked and disliked and what went wrong and then made a spreadsheet and scored past boyfriends (and guys I'd fancied/those I'd turned down) till I had a list.

On my profile I put down what I wanted: basically I want to get married to a farmer, shepherd, game keeper or similar and have kids. If they didn't fit that kinda bill they didn't get a date. I had no interest in days of texting/messaging/phone calls - as can tell way better and faster in real life.
Think it's worth going on date with couple of people before becoming 'involved' - think it's good to have something to compare to!   

That was in 2008; been happily married for four years, 2nd child on the way, and never had an argument    Best of luck to you!- I gave the same explanation of what I did to my best friend and she got married to a lovely guy 3 years ago. x

[doganjo]

Alternatively, if you are on the rock, fain an interest in sailing.  You might find Mr right has his own super yacht too!

Ha ha, this made me laugh. 
When husband No 1 died I was devastated, kept head down into work for about a year, then I was ill and off work for a few weeks; and in the meantime the company had closed a contract and taken staff into the office unbeknown to me.
First day back I had to prepare expense sheets for one of them, sign it off and hand over the cheque - my assistant said 'that's him upstairs', I looked up and fell headlong!!!  Absolutely, hook, line and sinker!

However, our relationship was cemented when he asked me to go mountaineering with him and i asked him to go to a dog show with me - both actions worked in hooking the other.  I climbed 12 Munros with him, then gave up;  I think he came to about the same number of champ shows  - and eventually we both admitted it to each other and had a great laugh.   Still miss them both, but I've made a single life fro myself.  Don't need men. (except for moving heavy bags of compost, bark etc  )

[Lesley Silvester]

Isn't that what men are for though, Annie?