[Sylvia]

My grandson, now aged ten, had a very difficult birth(as did my daughter!) His poor little head and face were swollen and black and blue and he was in terrible pain from "let's try forceps once more, let's try suction once more" It broke my heart to see him.
He had dreadful problems later, couldn't concentrate, behavioural problems, screaming tantrums. In fact he must be the only child ever to be expelled from the child minder!!
At the age of three he had six sessions of cranial osteopathy and was transformed from a demon into the angel I always knew he was.
The osteopath told my daughter that had she seen him as a baby, one session would have done the trick.
I think all babies that have had a difficult arrival should be offered this treatment, it may reduce a lot of "naughtiness" etc.

[HappyHippy]

Sylvia, I had read something about babies and children benefiting from reiki and massage, especially if they had a 'traumatic' birth or if the mother had a hard time with the pregnancy.
Kaitlin arrived without too much trouble (other than it being xmas day!) but the pregnancy WAS terrible, I was really ill all through and put my back out really badly at about 7 and a half months.
I'm hoping this helps - I'm prepared to do ANYTHING to help her, because like you, I know that deep down she's a lovely, loving, caring & generous child - but her behavious just totally eclipses that.
Reiki tomorrow, so will report back on how that goes 

[Sylvia]

Prayers and best wishes for you and Kaitlin.

[sandy]

When I think back to being a young mum I remember all those very difficult children, mine were brilliant I add BUT, some of the worse all turned into decent honest people who seemingly are very well balanced!!!! Just needs time!

[HappyHippy]

Hi Sandy,
I was so lucky with Rebecca (my first) she was (and still is) the 'perfect' child 
Kaitlin was different (and difficult) from the word go ! I know people say you never get 2 the same - but the difference is unbelievable  One thing with her though is she ALWAYS tells the truth, I think it's linked to not realising consequences (she doesn't realise she'll get into trouble if she's done something wrong)
Before I had Kaitlin I have to admit to being one of those people who blamed the parents for naughty, out of control kids BUT, now I'm in that same situation and I know what a load of rubbish that is ! Both girls have been raised the same way, eat the same foods etc but couldn't be more different.
I can't wait til tomorrow, because the weather's been so rotten this weekend and I've hurt my back we've been stuck in the house and she's driving me round the bend  If the reiki doesn't work for her - I'll maybe get a session myself 

[little blue]

 
All the best for tomorrow, let us know how you get on.   x

[Fluffywelshsheep]

well the reki is ok for children, not heared of cranial massage before but am sure it's worth trying at least once

Linz

[sandy]

Happy Hippy, I agree, we are all sooooo different so too are our children, I remember walking into a delivery room after a birth and the baby was moving about looking around and wriggling, I then thought, I bet he will be trouble!!! silly I know but you can tell the temprement from birth, sometimes the good babies are also dull people !!!!

[marigold]

I once had a cranio session with my daughter. She was less than one but as the practicioner was treating her she got her to sit on my knee and treated me too. It was amazing. I think that if you are givving lots of energy and care to your daughter you probably need a reiki session whether or not it works for her. You need to be on top form to be a mum. Take care.

[HappyHippy]

Okay, so the reiki has had a very slight effect 
Kaitlin was calm during it and quite subdued on the way home. She concentrated well for 30 minutes after she got back to school (usually 5 - 10 minutes, max!) and she cuddled up next to me on the couch for a good 40 minutes when she got home - that's almost unheard of  She normally just doesn't sit still ! She's still mental in between times, but I wasn't expecting miracles (might have been nice though )
I've checked with everyone who's going to be treating her and there's no problem with mixing the reiki, massage and homeopathy - she's getting the massage on Thursday, so let's see how that goes (I'm expecting a more marked result with that - hopefully !)

[Fluffywelshsheep]

i'll be really interested in what happens .

With having a wriggling , and staring at the room baby (as sandy put it lol) Am in for trouble lol

althought he a very contended baby most of the time.

Linz

[MiriMaran]

Glad to hear it had an effect!  Oliver, my eldest, is generally well behaved, but tends to wind Harry up as its very easy to make Harry explode.  I wonder sometimes if Oliver feels like he is in Harry's shadow as he is so larger than life and Oliver, on his own, is quiet and thoughtful.

Going back to the birth/behaviour thing Oliver had a very easy birth, was a perfect baby and in fact was utterly perfect until Harry got mobile.  Harry's birth was 10 days early and very quick, out on the first push, bright purple with bloodshot eyes - so possibly traumatic for him.  Then at 9 weeks he had Bronchilitis and we nearly lost him.  It wasn't until about 12 weeks that Harry came alive - it was almost as if he hadn't been ready to be born, it was wierd.

HH at 4 and 5 Harry always told the truth and couldn't get why Oliver would lie, but has now started to copy Oliver, but lies very badly with a glint in his eye .  He is also useless at understanding consequences and always has been - punishment means nothing to him - he coulodn't care less.  For example, when he was 18 monthsish he was shaking his bottle of milk upside down so that milk was spraying all over the sitting room.  I warned him he would get sent to the naughty step if he carried on doing it.  He stood up, got his security rag, put it on the bottom step, returned to the sitting room, turned the bottle upside down and sprayed the sittingroom with milk and then walked to the naughty step and sat down happily with his rag!

He's got into so many problems because he doesn't think in the heat of the moment - I am trying to get him to stop, breath, think - its not easy though.  Harry and Kaitlin should get togather - they'd probably be best friends for about an hour then all hell would break loose!!!  Oliver and your other daughter would just happily play quietly together!!  I can picture it now!!

[HappyHippy]

Relax Linz, if he's contented now, he'll stay contented - you'd know if he was going to be trouble by the permanent screaming  My kids were all really nosey babies, heads up, eyes open, just watching everything - and they're still the same 
Rebecca wants to know everything about everything ! It's quite tricky explaining the mechanics of childbirth to a 5 year old who's just no way believing the cabbage patch or stork story, or that, yes the pigs will be getting eaten and no they can't stay as pets But, IMHO, I think it's better to be dead honest and up front about things with them - don't want them growing up and getting the fright of their lives 

Mirimaran - you're so right, our kids sound exactly the same. Rebecca's just another Oliver  And although I didn't think it possible for there to be another Kaitlin, Harry's just her in male form ! That thing with the milk - had me laughing and crying at the same time  BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, GOT THE T-SHIRT as they say.
I do feel bad for Rebecca, she does tend to miss out on time with me cos Kailin tends to dominate  like you say, she's just in her shadow.
The thing about Harry not being ready to be born struck home with me - Rebecca was 13 days early and as she was my first I expected Kaitlin to be even earlier as she was my second, but she hung on an extra week before making her arrival - it's weird isn't it ?
LOL Kids! - what did we do before we had them, eh?

[MiriMaran]

Oo I've got another story for you.  When Harry was 2 my Mum came to stay for the first time and I wanted everything to run smoothly.  Oliver moved into Harry's room and my Mum had Ollie's room.  On the first night Oliver nervously came downstairs and told me that Harry wouldn't let him get to sleep so I went up to investigate.  Harry, who never poohed in his nappy, was so disgusted at having to share that he did a dirty protest.  Pooh all over the carpet, bed, walls, toys, books, everything.  My poor Mum, the very first time she's visitied, she's not madly into children and she' scrubbing crap off the carpet!!!!!!!  Harry got the scrubbing of his life in the bath and was sent to bed red and shiny.  Oliver was moved in to our room!!  So I guess in the end he still got his own way!

[doganjo]

Oo I've got another story for you.  When Harry was 2 my Mum came to stay for the first time and I wanted everything to run smoothly.  Oliver moved into Harry's room and my Mum had Ollie's room.  On the first night Oliver nervously came downstairs and told me that Harry wouldn't let him get to sleep so I went up to investigate.  Harry, who never poohed in his nappy, was so disgusted at having to share that he did a dirty protest.  Pooh all over the carpet, bed, walls, toys, books, everything.  My poor Mum, the very first time she's visitied, she's not madly into children and she' scrubbing crap off the carpet!!!!!!!  Harry got the scrubbing of his life in the bath and was sent to bed red and shiny.  Oliver was moved in to our room!!  So I guess in the end he still got his own way!

For example, when he was 18 monthsish he was shaking his bottle of milk upside down so that milk was spraying all over the sitting room.  I warned him he would get sent to the naughty step if he carried on doing it.  He stood up, got his security rag, put it on the bottom step, returned to the sitting room, turned the bottle upside down and sprayed the sittingroom with milk and then walked to the naughty step and sat down happily with his rag

I am SOOOOOOO  laughing 

Tears rolling down my face.  What lovely boys you have !   I LOVE kids with character.  They will never get swallowed up in the melee of life.