when granny's visiting and sneaks it to her
WHAT!
I'm sorry Karen but if any of my grandkids had that problem there is no way I'd exacerbate it - nor would my daughter and son-in-law keep quiet if they saw me sneaking then anything! Don't mean to offend but can't you tell her not to do this?
Hi Annie,
I've tried
Neither she, nor my father-in-law take any notice of what I ask them

It's not just the sweetie thing - it's everything ! It's becoming a real strain every time they visit (which incidentally, seems to be for longer each time) They may be nearly 70 but act like a pair of kids (how they managed to raise 2 kids is actually beyond me

) Both have health issues (diabetes and high blood pressure) but continue to live on cold meat, fried eggs and chips, 5 a day - no, we couldn't manage that ! No matter what I make for them to eat (they won't even make themselves a sandwich at lunchtime - they wait for ME to do it!) - the faces get screwed up and mutterings along the lines of "Oh, we don't like lasagne or whatever(but they will eat spaghetti)" I perhaps overstepped the mark and offended them on one occaision when I lost it and told them that given their health problems did they not think it worthwhile changing their diet and cutting back on booze (1 litre bottle of vodka brtween them every 2 days) so now they go to the spare room and spend 3 or 4 hours drinking there instead of in the living room, cause hey, if I can't see them doing it - it must not be happening (yes, they really think I'm THAT stupid !)
I know that as they get older it's going to get even worse and I would seriously love to tell them not to come and visit. But I can't do that, it's not fair, it's the only time they get to see their grandkids and I'd hate to stop that (but am getting ever closer)- they live up in Aberdeen and if they didn't come down here, I doubt we'd manage up to see them with all our commitments down here.
Oh, it makes my blood boil

Here's a perfect example of how they think - when Connor was born they arrived down to visit the next day (despite us asking for a bit of time so we could judge how Kaitlin was going to react to the baby and spend time as a family) do you know what the first or second thing to come out of father-in-law's mouth ? "When was the last time you hoovered this place?" AAarrrggghhh !!!!!!!!! That was it - I nearly told them then "If you don't like it you can F*** off back up to Aberdeen and stay there!" I would have gotten away with it too - could've blamed the hormones

But, as usual, I let them off

S'ok though - I've not got a spare room as of the end of this month cos Connor needs his own room so all the stuff they leave here (including their own bedding - how offensive is that?) will be put in the loft and they'll have to sleep on the couch - cue less frequent visits (hopefully

) Either that or I'll encourage their drinking and bad lifestyle and get them shipped off to a care home sooner rather than later - oh, I'm bad. But they drive me to it

SORRY for the rant, does me good to get it all off my chest from time to time
