My relationship was different to yours, Both my parents left , and met new partners, I am sure one of them was meant to take me,
I stayed in the house on my own, i was 14 at the time.. until my aunt bought the property
i then moved into a bedsit, just couldn't fit into the new families created on both sides…
My sister was put into a home, she has Cerbal palsy..i never to this day, forgive them for that..
as i grew, i grew further away from them, i use to visit, and when i tried to move back..well!! it just didn't work.
some of that was down to me…
years went by and i started my own family..i had a call, dad was ill. so i came down, he died a few days later,
it was a weird feeling, everyone was crying except me… they where all telling me what a great man he was,
it was almost like being inside a big bubble looking out….. even at the cremation, i showed no emotion..
7 years later , i was driving home, and this song came on the radio..the living years, i felt angry , not just with dad, but myself..i guess , we both should of tried harder.. the song brought a tear to my eye…
I guess i loved dad, and i know he loved me..we just didn't tell each other… i sometimes still look to the sky and have a moan at him,
I am glad i said goodbye to him, even though we didn't exchange the words i think we both wanted..stubborn to the end..
i have also lost mum now, she is still alive , but she has alzheimers, she hasn't a clue who i am….
I don't think i had the best parents, and maybe i made a few mistakes, but i can't turn back time ….
if i where you, i think i would go..if nothing else, just to close that chapter in your life.. don't expect anything..
but be there for You
what ever you do, no one can judge you…and nor they should
i do send my best wishes to you ,
John