Hi Cheryl
Loving my goats, it's tempting to try and encourage you to go for goats, but it has to be up to you to finally decide. Why not go to some shows this summer, have a look, goatkeepers always seem happy to talk about their 'babies', but will probably insist their breed is the best!
I have ordinary stock fence, with a single strand of electric fence about 2' round the inside, one of my girls can clear a stockfence from standing, but she respects the electric wire.
With disbudding you are only hearing about the problems here, because owners are concerned and asking for advice, there will be many many more with no problem, OR, you could leave them with horns (personally I prefer disbudded, I think it's safer, but depends on circumstances).
Milking isn't difficult, once you get the hang of it, think of how the milk is worked down, it will be easy, and a pleasure, and you'll bond with your girls, so don't just think getting 'a little' attached, you may find they take over your life
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Info on the 'net is very useful, and this site must be one of the best, but I still think it's good to curl up and read books, your local library may have books or will get them for you, and it's good to use local services, or we may lose them.