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Rosemary

  • Joined Oct 2007
  • Barry, Angus, Scotland
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Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #15 on: April 29, 2018, 09:57:01 am »
Sending  :hug: :hug: :hug: . What a time you have had. No wonder you were overwhelmed but so glad you're feeling more positive. It may be inappropriate to say so, but cut me wome slack - I hope big Australian sharky, spidery, snakey things are attached to someone's arse.

DavidandCollette

  • Joined Dec 2012
Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #16 on: April 29, 2018, 10:10:46 am »
I think that what you have achieved is amazing, and you should be very proud of yourself. You seem to be over the difficult transition part of your life and making plans for the future. Brilliant! Remember that you will still have occasional Black Dog days. Just accept that they are happening, and let them pass.  :hug:

Womble

  • Joined Mar 2009
  • Stirlingshire, Central Scotland
Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #17 on: April 29, 2018, 10:25:39 am »
I've spoken to a few smallholders and farmers recently who have said that if they knew every winter was going to be like the one we've just had, they'd throw in the towel now. I know I certainly felt like it at times.  Yet you somehow managed to move house, find space for your livestock, AND keep them all alive, despite all that you've been going through? I have deep respect for that.

So now spring is springing, cut yourself as much slack as you possibly can. I think after a hard winter, we all need to reconnect with why we're doing this - let the smallholding lifestyle give back to us a little, instead of it feeling like a constant struggle. For me, it was enough to sit with the lambs for half an hour on Friday and watch them run races around me. Make sure you do something similar  :hug: .

As a (too) busy person who has autistic tendencies and struggles to socialise and make friendships......

 ;D Another one, huh?  :wave:
"All fungi are edible. Some fungi are only edible once." -Terry Pratchett

SallyintNorth

  • Joined Feb 2011
  • Cornwall
  • Rarely short of an opinion but I mean well
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Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #18 on: April 29, 2018, 01:13:57 pm »
Jeni has forgotten her logon, but says
Quote from: magnusmog
I'm quite relatively near Laurencekirk and there's still a spinning group on in Forfar at the days you mentioned. I haven't been for years just because of busyness but I know it still goes on. It's not a guild thing, just an informal group but they are friendly.
Don't listen to the money men - they know the price of everything and the value of nothing

Live in a cohousing community with small farm for our own use.  Dairy cows (rearing their own calves for beef), pigs, sheep for meat and fleece, ducks and hens for eggs, veg and fruit growing

SallyintNorth

  • Joined Feb 2011
  • Cornwall
  • Rarely short of an opinion but I mean well
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Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #19 on: April 29, 2018, 01:17:41 pm »
It may be inappropriate to say so, but cut me wome slack - I hope big Australian sharky, spidery, snakey things are attached to someone's arse.

In similar circs, my GBF had me rename the ex-hub’s entry on my phone to “Selfish %4^ker” - so every time he called or texted, I’d a) be reminded what he was and b) answer with a smile in my voice.  :roflanim:
Don't listen to the money men - they know the price of everything and the value of nothing

Live in a cohousing community with small farm for our own use.  Dairy cows (rearing their own calves for beef), pigs, sheep for meat and fleece, ducks and hens for eggs, veg and fruit growing

SallyintNorth

  • Joined Feb 2011
  • Cornwall
  • Rarely short of an opinion but I mean well
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Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #20 on: April 29, 2018, 02:35:17 pm »
There's a lot of us spin :spin: and knit :knit: too... ;)
Don't listen to the money men - they know the price of everything and the value of nothing

Live in a cohousing community with small farm for our own use.  Dairy cows (rearing their own calves for beef), pigs, sheep for meat and fleece, ducks and hens for eggs, veg and fruit growing

doganjo

  • Joined Aug 2012
  • Clackmannanshire
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Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #21 on: April 29, 2018, 04:38:54 pm »
It may be inappropriate to say so, but cut me wome slack - I hope big Australian sharky, spidery, snakey things are attached to someone's arse.

In similar circs, my GBF had me rename the ex-hub’s entry on my phone to “Selfish %4^ker” - so every time he called or texted, I’d a) be reminded what he was and b) answer with a smile in my voice.  :roflanim:
Why didn't you just delete it?
Always have been, always will be, a WYSIWYG - black is black, white is white - no grey in my life! But I'm mellowing in my old age

SallyintNorth

  • Joined Feb 2011
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    • Trelay Cohousing Community
Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #22 on: April 29, 2018, 07:18:04 pm »
It may be inappropriate to say so, but cut me wome slack - I hope big Australian sharky, spidery, snakey things are attached to someone's arse.

In similar circs, my GBF had me rename the ex-hub’s entry on my phone to “Selfish %4^ker” - so every time he called or texted, I’d a) be reminded what he was and b) answer with a smile in my voice.  :roflanim:
Why didn't you just delete it?

Because we had to discuss things.  Once we were divorced and everything sorted, I did delete it.
Don't listen to the money men - they know the price of everything and the value of nothing

Live in a cohousing community with small farm for our own use.  Dairy cows (rearing their own calves for beef), pigs, sheep for meat and fleece, ducks and hens for eggs, veg and fruit growing

fsmnutter

  • Joined Oct 2012
  • Fettercairn, Aberdeenshire
Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #23 on: April 29, 2018, 10:21:38 pm »
Thanks all for the support.
I think there's certain professions/hobbies etc that draw us slightly autistic types, I think there's definite affinities with animals - vets and farmers/smallholders, as well as those that frequent chat forum type things as it's a bit less direct contact with people and so easier for us to manage. And spinning/knitting etc occupies the fingers, I think we need distractions like that.
Sally you're a star, I should definitely be able to do something with a Sunday afternoon spinning group in Forfar, how exciting to have that to look forward to.
I've thought similar thoughts, unfortunately the Australian flora and fauna didn't get hold of him before he got back to his new blonde vet in Switzerland - good luck to her! But I also feel frequently how much better off I am - within days I was coming across things I didn't miss - smoking, drinking, leaving the toilet seat up, to all the little things you know annoyed you that you can do differently or have noone to complain about them!
Anyway, I think I'm starting to appreciate living with just animals and gradually starting to enjoy life again after all the hiccups.

Lesley Silvester

  • Joined Sep 2011
  • Telford
Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #24 on: April 29, 2018, 11:02:37 pm »
That is a very positive attitude to take. Forget the good bits about him and focus on the bad. I tried to do that with my ex but then realised there weren't any good bits to forget.

Penninehillbilly

  • Joined Sep 2011
  • West Yorks
Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #25 on: April 30, 2018, 02:10:57 am »
Wow fsmnutter, I think you are amazing to come through all that, and keeping up with all the animals at the same time! phew!. and great you are back with us, I've missed your input, but its even nicer to know you must feel among friends and could open up on here and tell us how how you are feeling, sounds like you are definitely on the up  ;D .
When someone was once feeling a bit put out by a response I said I feel we are like a group of friends sat round a table chatting, as a group we've laughed, cried, argued and sympathized with each other I still love this forum, and when one of the gang has been missing its nice to give a welcoming hug on their return,  so welcome back t the family fsmnutter :hug: .
 

Dan

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Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #26 on: April 30, 2018, 12:11:04 pm »
Welcome back, so happy to have you back with us.  :hug:

mojocafa

  • Joined Sep 2012
  • Angus
Re: Reconnecting with life
« Reply #27 on: June 08, 2018, 05:55:58 am »
There is a spinning group in Forfar, I can get details about it for you.
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