[trish.farm]

oh so glad I found this post, somewhere to vent my anger at this frustrating situation some women find themselves in! I am 47 and have been suffering for the last year! My doctor told me that I cant possibly be menopausal at my age, yeh right.  Havent slept a full night for the last 12 months, often have to change all my sheets in the night as they are dripping.  Serious hot flushes during the day, which always happen at the worst moment possible.  And moods, blimey I even scare myself!!  One of the reasons for my major fallout with the council over fly tipping, I have yet to use menopause as my defence for blocking the road with someone elses rubbish!  Not taking anything, not using anything, far too scared to put any more hormones or anything in my body. 

[SallyintNorth]

Change your GP.  The man's an idiot.      (I don't usually assume gender, but I think I'm probably on a safe wicket on this occasion!)  My mum started at 44, two of her aunts also had the menopause in their forties.

[waterbuffalofarmer]

oh so glad I found this post, somewhere to vent my anger at this frustrating situation some women find themselves in! I am 47 and have been suffering for the last year! My doctor told me that I cant possibly be menopausal at my age, yeh right.  Havent slept a full night for the last 12 months, often have to change all my sheets in the night as they are dripping.  Serious hot flushes during the day, which always happen at the worst moment possible.  And moods, blimey I even scare myself!!  One of the reasons for my major fallout with the council over fly tipping, I have yet to use menopause as my defence for blocking the road with someone elses rubbish!  Not taking anything, not using anything, far too scared to put any more hormones or anything in my body. 

My mother started perimenopausal at around your age, she has been taking supplements of vitamin c, vitamin B complex and evening primrose oil capsuals with starflower; which has helped her emotional side of things, it has also helped with the hot flushes as well, but she mainly takes sage tincture to combat the hot flushes. My mum has just turned 54.   

[waterbuffalofarmer]

Change your GP.  The man's an idiot.      (I don't usually assume gender, but I think I'm probably on a safe wicket on this occasion!)  My mum started at 44, two of her aunts also had the menopause in their forties.

I have heard that some women can start the menopause at 35! It really depends. I agree with you though sally if he is a GP surely he should have experience with diagnosing symptoms. I think that maybe you should change GP trish-farm, never trust one who can't diagnose the menopause, whether man or woman.

[Buffy the eggs layer]

Many Women find it difficult to have their emotional and mental health symptoms seriously and lots of people make jokes about it. Menopause can indeed happen in your 30s but as many GPs only treat Menopause (which is when periods stop) not pre or peri menopause which can last for years before periods actually stop.


Also, some women experience little more than hot sweats and therefore are not very sympathetic to other women and feel they should just knuckle down and get on with it.


I experienced my first symptoms a couple of years ago which were heart palpitations, followed  buy the most incredible muscle tensions and twitches in my lower legs which prevented me sleeping. Although menopause is something that all women experience I found it difficult to find information on it. Once I did however so many things slotted into place.


This can be incredibly debilitating for many women and I read that around 10% have considered jacking in their jobs as a result. Us girls are made of tough stuff so to me it's a measure of how beside themselves some women can feel. There is a genuine need for more understanding and respect for this I feel as well as more information on how to manage it and the possible solutions, supplements and support available.

[clydesdaleclopper]

Eek after reading all the posts I'm now terrified of going through the menopause

[Bionic]

I was talking about all of this last night to too ladies who work in the health service. One recommended sage, suggested a few posts above, but not the sort of sage you get in the usual health food shops. She gets its from a special place. I'm not sure what all that is about. The other one suggested the lady magnet, also mentioned above. I hadn't heard of these previously either but apparently it comes well recommended.

[Buffy the eggs layer]

Clydesdale it's not that bad for everyone.   Thats what makes it tough for those who are badly effected. Those who have it fairly easy dont know what the others are making such a fuss about

[doganjo]

I can't be much help because it wasn't so bad for me. Ok I had a few hot flushes and night sweats but nothing major. The only thing was that my periods didn't stop until I was 58.

Same for me except mine stopped at 47 when we were in a car crash - they said the shock of Sandy's death did that I think. 
I was on HRT for osteoporosis for 5 years then refused to take any more because of the scare that it contributes to cancers. But  I thought they had now dispelled that theory ?

[doganjo]

Hi Ellie,


 my sister in law was telling me about a product called a lady care magnet that has helped her symptoms. Interestingly there are allot of people who havent tried it but get very animated in their attempts to discredit it on the reviews. But equally there are many who swear by it including my SiL who incidentally is a nurse.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0053X8WDQ/?tag=googhydr-21&hvadid=85775824963&hvpos=1t2&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=6837042217451827070&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_8yyykax5fr_b

[Buffy the eggs layer]

Boots stock it too. I havent tried it myself as the menoserene and black cohosh have been great for me but I guess it's different strokes for different folks.

[mojocafa]

I have invested in the lady care magnet, will give it a few days and feed back. Have read the reviews
 on various sites but can't wait to push a shopping trolley, apparently I may stick to it 

[Buffy the eggs layer]

Ha ha,


  yeah my SiL mentioned that as a drawback.   
  That and the chances of it falling down the loo. Lol




Oh the joys of being female 

[sabrina]

I started at 42 and it was hell. Work was difficult, my brain seem to be a total fog and hot flushes all the time. the worse was not been able to sleep for nights on end. I felt a wreck. due to the fact my mother had two heart attacks in her early 50's my doctor put me on HRT patches and my life became normal again. Only on it for 5 years but I ended up with breast cancer age 56. Its not in my family history so I was left wondering was it the HRT who knows. When i look back would I have done the same again and I have to say yes. I had no life what so ever and HRT gave me back myself. Taken off it after the 5 years I did go back to hot flushes etc but not quite as bad. If your sex life is going down the drain due to being uncomfortable which again is so common Replens bought from your Chemist and is hormone free works very well. Cut things out of your diet that you know will trigger a hot flush, I went years without wearing a jumper. the good news this time will past and life will be better.

[Buttermilk]

According to many of the elderly ladies at my mothers social events hot flushes stay with you for 20 plus years.