[Fleecewife]

..........I don't know why its weird to offer someone booze! I wish people would offer me booze 

Just say you turn up on someone's doorstep, someone you don't know from Adam, bearing a nice big bottle of strong alcohol.  First off, it's so obvious that you want something, but the point I'm really trying to make is, that if someone can't or must not drink alcohol, but wants to and is struggling not to, then shoving temptation in their face is about as tactless and rude as you can get, even if you've done it with the nicest intent.  Look at the statistics for alcoholic and depressed farmers and you will see what I mean.

This is my view, others have their views, so you have the option of listening or not listening.

[Penninehillbilly]

What's the problem with knocking on the door? (have someone along for moral support, sat in the motor?) long time since I've done such a thing but met some lovely people by just knocking and asking about something in a field etc.
I'd agree unless it's someone you are aquainted with it wouldn't seem right taking a bottle, (just trying to think how I would prefer someone approaching me about land), I certainly wouldn't mind someone knocking on the door and asking, even if I would say no, but I'd be friendly about it.
 
saying is - 'if you don't ask you don't get'
another saying - 'a stranger is a friend you've yet to meet'
 
I'd go for it  , but talk about growing things before sounding them out about pigs 
You'll be miffed if someone else just happens to notice the same patch while you're thinking about it.
Good Luck
 

[pgkevet]

Everyone is entitled to an opinion.

There comes the point where the world gets mad...next you won't be able to say hello to the new neighbours with a basket of muffins in case someone is diabetic, suffers from gluten intolerances, has blueberry allergy or a fear of gingham or wicker or has an eating disorder, gastric ulcer, might be overweight or a serial killer in denial.

Of course you wouldn't dream of taking muffins unless you had a stainless steel kitchen, a recent inspection cert and your NVQ in hygeine, food science and catering.

You can't write to him in case he's stressed over possible bills or has a terror of letter bombs. Heck he may have had a recent sex change and is no longer the Occupier.. she's now the Occupia

You can't call or phone in case he/she happens to be involved in some afternoon delight with the au pair or field hand let alone the risks of tripping over some cultural infraction involving a bizarre primitive ritual.

[devonlady]

I've had a few strangers asking if I will let out my grazing for ponies. I've always said no but have never been annoyed or offended. Unfortunately they have never come bearing gifts though! (come to think of it I may have found it a bit embarrassing if they had)

[Cosmore]

..........I don't know why its weird to offer someone booze! I wish people would offer me booze 

Just say you turn up on someone's doorstep, someone you don't know from Adam, bearing a nice big bottle of strong alcohol.

Yes, and they might think that you are a raving alcoholic, not to be trusted!

[Fleecewife]

Everyone is entitled to an opinion.

There comes the point where the world gets mad...next you won't be able to say hello to the new neighbours with a basket of muffins in case someone is diabetic, suffers from gluten intolerances, has blueberry allergy or a fear of gingham or wicker or has an eating disorder, gastric ulcer, might be overweight or a serial killer in denial.

Of course you wouldn't dream of taking muffins unless you had a stainless steel kitchen, a recent inspection cert and your NVQ in hygeine, food science and catering.

You can't write to him in case he's stressed over possible bills or has a terror of letter bombs. Heck he may have had a recent sex change and is no longer the Occupier.. she's now the Occupia

You can't call or phone in case he/she happens to be involved in some afternoon delight with the au pair or field hand let alone the risks of tripping over some cultural infraction involving a bizarre primitive ritual.

 

[Kimbo]

..........I don't know why its weird to offer someone booze! I wish people would offer me booze 

Just say you turn up on someone's doorstep, someone you don't know from Adam, bearing a nice big bottle of strong alcohol.

Yes, and they might think that you are a raving alcoholic, not to be trusted!

Really??? Im obviously far too simple

[Penninehillbilly]

I like an occasional drop of whisky but I'd be a bit unsure of a stranger turning up onthe doorstep offering a bottle.
But I think muffins would be a lovely way to welcome a new neighbour, thought would appreciated diabetic or otherwise
 
Anyway lets get this thread back to being helpful to 'Fruity'?

[pharnorth]

When life gets too complicated just keep it simple. Go and ask.

[Bigdreams]

Cheers everyone!!  I plucked up the courage and walked up their track and knocked on their door this morning. It's a no but they were very nice. They said there are lots of unused plots about and to keep asking around 

I have however spotted another piece in Ardingly. Again i've gone onto the land registry site to find out who owns it.
They live in Surrey  will speak to a couple of the neighbours to see if I can get some more information.

[Marches Farmer]

If you do succeed, you may have to be with and reassure your pigs for a while, they might not be too keen on a great hissing, clanking and chuffing monster rumbling by periodically , if they have not been used to steam railways!

I agree!   Our piglets are raised with frequent visitors, both human and low flying aircraft from RAF Valley, but I think even they'd take exception to a railway line.  Also consider how much rubbish you see alongside the tracks. How could you be sure you'd be around when someone throws a can, bottle or plastic sandwich wrapper out of the window?

[Kimbo]

Keep trying Fruity. They can only say No...then one day someone will say YES 

[pharnorth]

Well done Fruity. When word gets round you are looking (and it will) someone will come knocking on your door.  I will be intrigued to know how long that takes, perhaps we should take bets!

[Penninehillbilly]

Well Done Fruity, good to know they were friendly about it, now you know them you can smile and say hello when you meet them, you never know, when you've met a few times they might change their minds.
Is Surrey a long way from you then? so bit difficult to knock on their door and say you were just passing and thought....   

[smallholdingsister]

I would drop them a line saying you hope they don't mind you asking, but...

If it's land that's not useful to them I can't see why they'd turn their noses up at extra £££££s.