Hello Kevin,
I would agree with compromise - but you can still have everything nearby and be away from neighbours.
We were very lucky. We fell in love with the views in the lake district of the West of Ireland. We have over 10 lakes within minutes, we overlook an unspoilt lake, and we are surrounded by forestry, high above water level increases, and still protected from the wind, south facing and it gets really hot when we do get the sun.
Like your Son, I always wanted to live near the beach and walk the dogs every morning. The thing is living near the sea has its drawbacks.
Very stormy and windy in the winter, the salty air means you can only grow costal plants, and the crowds of people coming to the beach and tourists in the summer would be annoying.
Again we are lucky, we are only 25 minutes from Strand Hill, and within 40 minutes of Easky and Rosses Point. In between those places there are lots of beachy coves and pebble beaches that are secluded, but accessible if you know your way around. So we have a touring caravan, and can wake up at the beach and walk the dogs whenever we wish to have an overnight stay. It's great and breakfast cooked in the caravan always tastes sooo much better!
Now we have so many animals, and have incorporated barbeque areas, decks and gazebo's on all the best spots of our land, we very rarely go away as we love being at home. We have our own small broadleaf woodland, and can see one house from our land, yet we are within 20 minutes drive of 4 farmers markets, the furthest villages are 2km away and our road is off the main road up a mountain, with grass up the middle like a donkey track, so tourists don't go up there. Our drive from the small road is also very long to the house, and we have grown trees so that even if people do come up, in the summer they cannot see into where we might be enjoying ourselves eating outside or sunbathing or entertaining friends. Our double bonus was the two mountain streams, one down each side of the land - we are very lucky.
What we did, was make a wish list of what we all wanted from the smallholding, including the animals we wanted to keep, the surrounding that were important and so on.
Our place is not far from Keadue, Irelands tidiest town winner on several occasions, and the Lough Meelagh setting, the fact that everyone works together in the village and surrounding areas to keep it beautiful and litter free, and that we are not near the village are all bonus points for us.
I am not into Feng Shui, but a friend of mine is, and she says our land could not be more perfect in working with the natural flow of energy and nature working together - so that was nice too.
Now you have made your list, and put it out there- the place thats right for you will turn up - sometimes in disguise.
We were brought up this mountain by an auctioneer who was showing us a damp old cottage open to the winds at the top of the mountain, cold and bleak - as we were coming back down I was our place and said "Thats more like what we are after".

Oh perfect he said, that belongs to the same man, and I think he might sell it too.
It had 35 acres with it, we only wanted five, and after a lot of negotiation we finally partitioned off the best bit for us at an agreed price.

So be patient, it will find you Kev

Good luck in your search
Julie (in the UK)