Hello Kaz,
sorry to hear things are not going too well at the moment. As far as the nhs in Wales is concerned , you could always do what someone in a similar position did , if you or he has relations in another area ie England...say that he has moved in with them as you can no longer cope . He would then be under their jurisdiction !!! it does get a bit confusing and should not have to be done , but the postcode lottery with the NHS does exist and the only thing you can do is play them at their own game. You have paid for care and are entitled to it !!!! You may well have to lower yourself to their depths !!! the system is much like the houses of parliament ...it is a complete croc of sh*t ....and it stinks !!! If you were Polish or from Asia or Africa , you would get the best treatment available anywhere in the world.....Hope he starts to improve soon mate.....
cheers
Russ