Hi all, thank you for the welcomes.
Unless something happens to prices or dh's salary or our income in another way, I believe we are going to have to move away from Oxon in order to have a smallholding. The SW is my main choice, or Wales (or border). This is already in my mindset.
Our problem is though, that dh is tied to his work. This leads to frustration on my part, because by the time he retires I think I will be too old to start doing something like smallholding. I can start doing it in the next few years, and be continuing to do it when I am retirement age, if you see what I mean. So I hope he will either change jobs (not likely) or be able to work more from home and allow us to move (not as unlikely, but not really likely).
In the meantime I try to keep learning as much as I can, working on my health issues, and doing as much experientially as I can (i.e. keeping chickens, gardening, learning things like cheesemaking, etc).
Thanks again for all the welcomes, This seems like a very friendly and informative forum.