hello Kaz,
when I had my smash, it left me with all sorts of problems . I had real problems with conversation, I could basically understand what was said to me , but answered with simple yes and no's for ages. I knew I had problems but could do nothing about it . As time went on , my speach got better, over six months I could put sentances together again . How I learnt to do that was by picking the words I wanted off of a merry go round I pictured in my head. I had also more or less garroted myself on the steering wheel so I sounded like Phil Mitchell off of East Enders !!! My memory was hit badly . I couldn't remember anything from the last ten years or so . This got better as time went by , but I still have big areas that I have no memory of at all. Other bits I think are what people have told me since the smash , and I now think of them as memories....it is almost impossible to tell the difference. I was very jumbled for a year or so , and I am still not as I was before the smash now, but it did get better over time. My eyesight was also hit hard . I had smashed both cheek bones and they had cracked and opened under each eye . When this happens muscle and fatty tissue drops down the gap and as the bone heals it cuts off this tissue. The eye then sits at a different angle to before . I had terrible double vision for about 18 months or so . This did get better and now I only get double vision if I am really tired. I can't say if my actual site was affected much as I had poor sight before the smash and it has only got slowly worse over the years . My attention span was cut to nothing .... and isn't that much better now really . I really can only cope with one thought or action at a time , ask me two questions , one after the other , and I just hang ...befuddled...I had terrible temper problems afte also . These took 10 years or more to bring under more normal control . They were very hard to cope with as I knew I was throwing a wobbly ...but could do nothing to stop it or know why I was throwing it anyway. Still , I mostly keep a lid on things now
. I was only in hospital for 11 days and then I walked out , I was still very heavily concussed and knew nothing of what I was doing at the time . However there was no mention of rehab apart from I should have been in a cast and then traction for about 3 months !!! I have forgotten lots of what I did and didn't do , and most of what I now remember , is really what people have told me I did . I am more or less normal these days
(more less than more!!!) and I think your OH should get back to normal in time . Don't expect miracles though , it just takes time , but it does come together in the end . Hope that helps a bit , I have told it as it was for me , and haven't hidden anything , so you know what things were like and can see if they relate to OH . I hope he keeps improving with time , and I am always here if you need to ask anything at all ....
cheers
Russ