Just having another ccoffe break and am worried about you Lordlond, Ian? We are afterall humans, we are NOT perfect, it's just about finding the tolerance level between you both. I never liked my husband and we argued constantly, after 21 years marrage + 6 years courting (old fashioned word) we seperated and, initialy it was bitter then now, we are like friends, he tells me his problems, does his own stuff and I do mine, I have few problems that a bit of extra income wouldn't change, anyway, life is not like romantic novels, I am lucky but I still have a lot to put up with when my partner has a mood swing, one due tonight, but that is him and his charactor, he will apppologises but it is stressful, I found he cannot help the sawings in his mood as hormone levels affect women, I then got to woundering, do animals get fed up with each other? Anyway, if you concentrate on yourself, things will slowly clear a bit and, one day you will see it all as one of lifes hiccups!!! I loved a saying I think was from those of Buddah, "Life is a journey, do not get stuck at the beginning, don't keep looking back or rush to the end, enjoy every step for whatever it brings enriches your life." another saying is, "If you live life in the fast lane, you get to your destination, the end, quicker" so, learn from what you had and move on, I'm off to work for a few min, that keeps me level!!!!!!