[ambriel]

My wife and I have both been married before.

Wife number 1 and I managed 8 yrs. Wife number 2 is doing marginally better, although we were also together for a few years before tying the know.

[Fleecewife]

We met and married in our teens, first time for both.  We are now hoping to reach our 40th anniversary in Sept together.  I don't think being married has kept us together all this time, it's love and commitment which do that.

[sam.t]

second time for me married 2 years first time but together 13 years (i was only 14 when we met) left my first husband in the june saying never again then wham met tony in the september moved in together 2 weeks later and married in the july 10 months later nearly 12 years ago
sam

[JulieS]

We've been together for 25 years, only got married 9 years ago though.   

[tazbabe]

I really like the idea of a humanist wedding but again, my OH's parents would not even consider attending.

Maybe we'll just have lots of babies out of wedlock instead and see how that goes down!

i think they would attend a humanist wedding, though a pagan ceremony would be too difficult for them. (i was brought up in their faith, stopped practising about 7yrs ago)

my story?  i was married at 17, had a  stormy 27yr relationship, now divorced and living in sin with my soulmate, whom i met over the internet. we will likely get married some time, but it will probs be a wellies and bbq affair!

[loosey]

Maybe I'll look into that. My partner stopped practiscing 12 years ago which obviously caused uproar, but everybody has accepted and settled now. They cannot come and stay with us because as you say Tazbabe "we are living in sin" . His brother is an elder so they are always on best behaviour ... until I buy his dad a bottle of whisky!! 

[Hilarysmum]

  I don't think being married has kept us together all this time, it's love and commitment which do that.

In our case its the inexhaustable supply of patience my OH has found over the years