thank you guys, i knew this day would come, i just think i have brought it on sooner by doing the needless milking task. I will try the calcium Anke, thanks- but as i said she is not collapsed- my prob is she just will NOT lie down. Last night i managed to pull her down onto me and she did eventually relax and have a sleep- watching her standing and obviously trying to stop her back legs buckling from exhaustion is awful.
I will ask for BUTE- i had it for a pet pig years ago- again to prolong life after arthiritis symptoms- you really do have to pester vets dont you- he knows she is not a meat or milk animal, and the metacam is already off licence so i dont know why he wouldnt give me that, but i will call monday and say- come on! the best pain killer you have my man, and no quibbles!