Well done on finally making THE decision Helencus, I know you have been struggling with this for a while.
Yes life is too short!
Before buying my smallholding I looked at both Scotland and Lincolnshire.
I decided on Lincolnshire for several reasons;
Land is cheaper than anywhere not remote in Scotland.
More temperate winters so cheaper animal feeding and longer autumns for extra time on the land and for veg.
Great train links to almost anywhere.
Small airport that does great internal flights, IE Edinburgh Exeter London and Ireland for holidays. This airport is international too forflights to Spain etc and good parking at the airport.
Good east coast seaside places for days out
Lots of other smallholders.
Just about right in the middle of England so easily assessable to anywhere with the great road links.
From my house I can get to Nottingham, Hull, Grimsby, Cleethorpes, Doncaster all within an hour driving.
Good luck deciding where.

PS We found our place through Brown and Co estate and land agents.