Thanks all for the support.
I think there's certain professions/hobbies etc that draw us slightly autistic types, I think there's definite affinities with animals - vets and farmers/smallholders, as well as those that frequent chat forum type things as it's a bit less direct contact with people and so easier for us to manage. And spinning/knitting etc occupies the fingers, I think we need distractions like that.
Sally you're a star, I should definitely be able to do something with a Sunday afternoon spinning group in Forfar, how exciting to have that to look forward to.
I've thought similar thoughts, unfortunately the Australian flora and fauna didn't get hold of him before he got back to his new blonde vet in Switzerland - good luck to her! But I also feel frequently how much better off I am - within days I was coming across things I didn't miss - smoking, drinking, leaving the toilet seat up, to all the little things you know annoyed you that you can do differently or have noone to complain about them!
Anyway, I think I'm starting to appreciate living with just animals and gradually starting to enjoy life again after all the hiccups.