[Roxy]

I really feel for you, going through this.  I think a lot of us can  relate to having a partner not as committed as us, to keeping livestock, growing food etc. And sometimes this bubbles over when they resent the money, and probably attention lavished on our animals.  I had my animals before meeting my husband - so he knew what my interests were.  Now we have more animals and land, and he does nothing but grumble.
 
Well done on making your decision - it can't have beeen easy.  I do hope you can manage to salvage something, and keep your smallholding going, even if its in a very small way.......its not fair to expect you to give everything up, surely?
 
Wishing you lots of luck.

[Workhorse]

Good luck and much happiness!   

[Rosemary]

Wow, Pip. Big decision but good on you - taking control is liberating, if a bit scary.

If you wanted a wee break, we've got a caravan you could have for a week or two 

[dmoran]

Sorry to hear of this, it sounds like a very difficult time.


I don't know if anything is still for sale but I would be interested in the young lambs and possibly some of the ewes.  Also interested in the pig arc and if you have a creep ad lib feeder.


Could you let me know if these things are still available?

[Foobar]

Good for you!  Well done!

[Brijjy]

Just read through the whole of this thread and here's a big old hug for you  I especially liked the bit where you said you grew some balls! You need to be happy in your life and from the tiny bit that I've learned about you, I don't think sitting about watching Jezza Kyle and mooching around the shops would have made you happy. It's a shame your OH couldn't accept this but then that would have made her miserable too. I think you've been incredibly brave. If you need a break away, then come to snowy Mid Wales for a wee while 

[annie burrows]

hello, may be interested in your new lambs and some of the chicks if they're still available.  Anne

[john and helen]

Wow !!! way to go that man... I guess in one way , it must have been hard to make the decision,
but as i said..you only live once... better to be happy with yourself than miserable for someone else...

I don't encourage Divorces..but being happy is a must... good for you

[Buffy the eggs layer]

Only on TAS could you post a a for sale thread on marketplace, share your marital problems, get sympathy, compassion and advice, anounce your possible divorce and get so much support, encouragment and kind offers of livestock fostering and scenic boltholes.
What a fantastic virtual family!
Congratulations Pip and the best of luck in all that you do. 

[Penninehillbilly]

Good luck Pip
How are you
Haven't heard from you since you mentioned divorce - You OK?

[plt102]

Right big update coming. Sorry I have been absent for so long and thank you so much for all your kind words and support. It is funny that the people who kind of know me best are ones I have never met xxx

So there was a big revelation a week or so that she had an affair last year and has been trying to push me away as she felt so guilty. Now she has been honest, we are going to Relate counselling to see if we can salvage anything at all. The animals still have to go but she says there might be a possibility to start again in the future (I doubt it but we will see)
So I will be starting to contact people who have expressed interest in the animals and equipment over the next few days. The sheep are due to be sheared in about 3 weeks so that would be a great time to collect them. The trailer will have to wait till last just in case along with the ride on mower but the rest can start to go asap. Sorry the balls I grew dropped off and I am doing what she wants but I guess marriage is worth working at I hope. Love to you all and I'll try to get in touch with everyone asap xxxx

[plumseverywhere]

hello Pip

its not about growing balls - its about doing what is right for you and your wife     If you believe your marriage is worth working for then you go for it!! very good news, really pleased for you. Marital breakdown is never good, too much heartbreak.  Hopefully RELATE will help you both work through the issues that led to the affair and that have come from it.
Us girls do daft stuff sometimes, but often realise that deep down our husbands/partners really are 'the one' ...take it from one who knows xxx

[Bionic]

Pip, Its great that you now know the real reason behind the original bombshell.    that you can work through it together with the help of Relate.

[fairhaven]

I haven't been on here much in the last few weeks & just read through the last couple of pages to catch up...    I really hope that things work out for you & that you will be happy.  With your situation, there are no easy options and there isn't an easy way out, but I am quite sure that your balls are still there and you will be just fine.  All the best.   

[silkiechick]

have sent you an email