Again, thanks for replies. (Another long post from me, but someone might benefit down the road - or up the hill or across the bog !?)
Back to the Yoko' Geolanders; I found, some 33k miles ago, that they do different tread spacing with the one for passenger cars (smaller wheel sizes) being the least open tread. (I wonder whether this is due to computerized scaling* according to wheel size !?) I'm thinking the Insa Turbo for a R16 wheel is worth a look instead.
Insa Turbo comes in at least 2 tread patterns - Dakar & Ranger - with Ranger being a copy of the Goodrich KO2 (which is less aggressive than the Dakar), but am wondering whether scaling (*as above) to a R16 wheel will end up with something like Event Tyres' alternative/copy of the KO2 tread pattern (reported as having quite soft rubber compound). I might go for the Insa Turbo Dakar version !
As to car/wheel control; I can quite accept that I might not be doing everything right, but, believe me, I have researched best advice for driving in off-road slippery conditions and tried every variation of 4WD settings (auto, fixed and with or without traction control) in 1st, 2nd or 3rd for any retries when I have failed to make way. (I should add that this is mainly an up-hill issue, BUT by no means always - bogging down sometimes happens on the flat.) I shall, however, keep Scarlet.Dragon's wise words in mind when a wheel next snatches.
As to forward v reverse gear: Duster 4WD reverse gear is much higher ratio (too high IMO) than its 1st gear, but lower than 2nd, yet car has only failed once to pull itself out of a mess in reverse! I'm still of a mind that my Geolanders' tread works better in reverse when off-road on soft ground !!??]
Autosocks: never heard of, but thanks for pointer S.D and I've checked out. Very interesting, but I need to renew my tyres anyway so I'm going to see how new "80 off/20 road" tyres fare first before trying Autosocks as an extra (@ some £70 a pair).
(Autosocks company advise their socks can help with wet grass, but not at all if there is any mud. I'll deffo get the new tyres 1st ! I can always try out Autosocks later.)
Finally; my wee tractor has never once been stranded in soft ground (apart from silly circumstances already described) even when towing-out my stuck car in very saturated ground; so, again, further thought suggests I should go as wide and as aggressive as possible, but taking into account that road use is/will still be the greater car use".
A very useful/thoughtful exchange from my point of view: again ta and I'll report idc which new tyres I went for.