I hope this isn't too controversial.
My Great Aunt is in her 90's and after a couple of falls agreed to move into a home. She was a lovely, sweet old lady and although registered blind, very deaf and limited mobility she got on ok.
She started behaving oddly:not communicating, being violent, screaming and throwing things around so was referred for a brain scan where they found 2 haematoma's on her brain. One on the part of the brain that influences personality hence the odd behaviour.
As she is so old and not in great health they don't want to operate so they have said there is nothing they can do for her.
It looks like she will spend the rest of her days in a hospital or nursing home bed, spending most of the time upset, and distressed with very little quality of life as she can't communicate with anyone and when anyone tries to touch her (to examine her, wash her, make her more comfortable or even hold her hand) she just screams. It just doesn't seem right.
The doctors have said that if she continues to be violent they may have to sedate her but this could cause breathing difficulties so they don't want to do that.
I can't help but think that if it was a family pet in this situation that you wouldn't let the suffering/poor quality of life continue but perhaps I am speaking out of turn. I just hate to see her suffering as she is, with no prognosis for any improvement
Surely something will have to change with elderly care? there's barely a day that you don't hear about the pressures that the ageing population is having on the economy - it would just be nice to think that any change would come on compassionate grounds rather than economic.