Ellie did this to begin with, and she had also been successfully milked the year before by her previous keeper.
What I did was 'hobble' her. So I put her in the milking stand and then tied together her back legs (with a piece of wide satin ribbon, which was just what I had to hand). You'll be relieved to hear that she is now Mrs Calm and hops up onto the milking stand herself the minute I put food in the bucket.
I shut my kids the other side of a mesh partition, so they can see mum but not drink overnight once they're about 3 months old. And I milk in the morning. And the mums get their breakfast on the milking stand, so they're quite keen to get on it.
So, I'd persevere for now and:
1. Have a bucket on the stand so she's eating treats while you milk
2. Tie a hurdle or something onto the milking stand the far side from where you sit, so that she can't go off the
stand sideways
3. Tie her back legs together for now
4. Breathe, and make sure that you are calm, quiet and relaxed - any stress transmits to the goat (easier said
than done, I know! Fake it til you make it ;-))
Also check:
1. She hasn't got low-grade mastitis or sores on her teats, and so her udder hurts
2. Your milking technique - that you are shutting the milk off and squeezing, not pulling (I use an
Udderly Ez hand pump which I think is easier on their teats and there's no bucket to kick over, but plenty of folk hand milk successfully)
Whereabouts are you - is there one of us goatkeepers nearby who could come over, look what you're doing and maybe give you some tips?