Author Topic: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!  (Read 41945 times)

happygolucky

  • Joined Jan 2012
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #75 on: January 23, 2013, 05:12:43 pm »
Oh no Mary!!! :bouquet:  you need some help around the place and some rest and warmth for yourself.....it may be better for your husband to return to hospital as its hard to nurse some one when you yourself need nursing..I am not sure of what survices are about in your area Mary but i do know they are few and far between....just hope you both get some rest and recovery.
MAK working in isolation is a double edged sword, know one to moan at you or fall out with but also no one to help or support you, especialy in stressful times, a problem shared and all that!!!!
I know the stats for farmers re; suicide used to be very high, its often the case of having all the profits (if any) eaten up buy some disaster....and work thats both hard phyiscaly and mentaly.
I think the other old saying of everything in moderation is spot on....too much isolation is not good!!!

NormandyMary

  • Joined Apr 2011
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #76 on: January 23, 2013, 06:15:26 pm »
Just got back from the doctors. OH has been given some more antibiotics, steroids and stuff to go into an aerosol. He's also given us a chit for a hospital car so that when he goes to the big hospital in Caen, about 70 miles away, we will be picked up at our front door, taken there, the driver will wait for us and bring us back home..all for free!! He is not allowed to go this Monday as he is too poorly so Ill have to phone them tomorrow to change his appointment. Im feeling a tad more confident now, sitting here in the warm with a coffee. Ill have an early night with our new leccie blanket on the bed, and Ill be as right as ninepence tomorrow..I WILL HONEST!!!!

happygolucky

  • Joined Jan 2012
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #77 on: January 23, 2013, 06:17:14 pm »
 :fc: :fc: :bouquet: :hug:  Nothing better than a cosy warm bed and a cuppa!!

Rosemary

  • Joined Oct 2007
  • Barry, Angus, Scotland
    • The Accidental Smallholder
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #78 on: January 23, 2013, 07:34:18 pm »
Glad things are looking up NM. That's one of the reasons I wouldn't relocate abroad - fine when all goes well, but no so great when things go wrong. I don't thing my grasp of any foreign language would be any use. The NHS might not be perfect but at least I understand it. Kind of.

kelpy

  • Joined Jun 2011
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #79 on: January 23, 2013, 08:42:50 pm »
i have ptsd & borderline personality disorder(which i don't agree with)
& i can honestly say if it was'nt for the animals i would'nt be here now.
they are hard work,but they have to be fed & looked after no matter what.
ok it can be stressful,a week before lambing i get really anxious & i have got suicidal,but once the first lambs born i'm fine & loving it,(can't work that one out)
but having suffered with mental health problems since my teens i'm well aware how hard it is.
i really feel for anyone out there with depression it's an awful place to be.
but there is help out there you just have to fight for it.

Lesley Silvester

  • Joined Sep 2011
  • Telford
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #80 on: January 23, 2013, 10:09:12 pm »
Mary, just read your post and I'm so sorry to hear that Allen is still poorly.  glad he hasn't to go into hospital again.  I know it gives you a break but, knowing you, you will be driving over every day to see how he is and wearing yourself out even more (my mum was like that whenever my dad was in hospital).  You sound as if you've picked up a virus, no doubt because you are run down with all the worry and racing about.  You do need to look after your own health.

Glad you are feeling warmer now.  Just do the bare minimum for the moment until you feel better.  Animals need looking after but they don't need round the clock care.  You two do.  And you are the ones to concentrate on.  And forget the housework.  Just the minimum.  Keep as warm as you can and rest as much as you can.  Keep us informed.  You know we care and, if it would help, PM me or someone else.  :bouquet: :hug: :hug:

Nickie

  • Joined May 2009
  • Gwynedd
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #81 on: January 23, 2013, 10:14:40 pm »
Mary. I agree with MGoM. Take care of you 2. You are too far away for me to help, but I would if I could.

NormandyMary

  • Joined Apr 2011
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #82 on: January 24, 2013, 12:02:23 pm »
Once again, thanks all. Feeling a bit better today. My new food steamer arrived today and to say its the dogs b*ll*cks is an understatement. Im also doing a cheering chicken caserole for tea tonight, so that will be going on top of the woodburner to cook later. Actually saw a glint of sunshine an hour ago, it was lovely. Its a bit warmer today too.
OH seems a bit better in himself, always a bonus! He had a good nights sleep which helps. My head feels a bit clearer today and my nose isnt so blocked. All in all, not too bad today.
Thanks for your offer MGM, Ill PM you later on for a chat!!

happygolucky

  • Joined Jan 2012
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #83 on: January 24, 2013, 12:16:52 pm »
 :wave: :wave: :wave: :bouquet:
I must get on topo, nice to hear the steamer has arrived!!!

TheGirlsMum

  • Joined Sep 2010
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #84 on: January 24, 2013, 02:00:18 pm »
Glad your feling a bit better Mary, take care of yourself

Carl f k

  • Joined Aug 2012
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #85 on: January 24, 2013, 07:57:46 pm »
I wish life was so simpler so you could just jump in the car or on a plane and go and give someone a helping hand when they need one!!!! Love and best wishes is all I can send unfortunately  xx

Rosemary

  • Joined Oct 2007
  • Barry, Angus, Scotland
    • The Accidental Smallholder
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #86 on: January 24, 2013, 08:51:38 pm »
Actually saw a glint of sunshine an hour ago, it was lovely.

Glad things are better today  :hug:

I think we're all solar powered - amazing the difference a bit of sunshine makes  :sunshine:

luckylady

  • Joined Aug 2009
  • Yorkshire
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #87 on: January 24, 2013, 10:10:01 pm »
Mary, I wish I could have been there for you in your hour of need if only on here (not checked in for a couple of days) but so pleased that you are now feeling a little more on top of things and, thankfully, OH is not quite as bad as you initially feared.  Chin up and keep heading onward and upward, as they say.  :hug:
PS Your steamer sounds awesome  :thumbsup:
Doing that swan thing - cool and calm on the surface but paddling like crazy beneath.

NormandyMary

  • Joined Apr 2011
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #88 on: January 25, 2013, 12:54:26 pm »
OH even better today Im happy to report. I went out shopping early this morning and when I got back he had hoovered the lounge, made the fire up and was there at the back door of the car emptying it before I had shut the gates. I wont let him go outside for long as its bitterly cold today, still 0 degrees at 1.50pm but hopefully he can have a little walk around the garden tomorrow if its warmer.
To say Im relieved is an understatement!

SallyintNorth

  • Joined Feb 2011
  • Cornwall
  • Rarely short of an opinion but I mean well
    • Trelay Cohousing Community
Re: Anxiety/depression & smallholding!!!
« Reply #89 on: January 25, 2013, 12:55:21 pm »
That's great news NM  :thumbsup:

How are you feeling now?
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