[SallyintNorth]

I am very sorry if my comment and query inflamed what I didn't realise was a 'situation'.

lab7, I hope you don't leave and I really hope you don't take offence at anything said here.  I can't see that any has been meant.

Annie,  you're Annie and we don't want you to be anyone else - any more than we want robert to change his spots. 

[Sylvia]

And it is Annie's birthday (I think) 

[doganjo]

And it is Annie's birthday (I think) 

And thank goodness it is nearly over!    At 68 I am still 'controversial' as was once said by a boss when i was leaving!

[Sylvia]

Isn't it odd how folk take even kindly meant comments? About twenty-five years ago I said to, if not a friend exactly but a close aquaintance," When is your baby due." It turned out she wasn't pregnant, just fat and hasn't spoken to me since!!

[Rosemary]

Yep, group hugs

[sabrina]

Good idea Sylvia, hugs all round. 

[Sandy]

Sorry but I am passionate about dogs too but no way would I be so rude to keep correcting people, thats why I left but decided to come back and fight my courner.....people who keep making corrections to what people are posting or what they say is NOT about being passionate its about being correct...far more important things to correct people on rather than a colour!!!  And, so many people call my Yellow Lab Gold......and does it bother me? NO, because I am passionate about my dogs not thier colour names!!!

[Rosemary]

Sandy, we've finished this one, had a group hug and left it at that. Please don't go picking scabs 

[Sandy]

Well I JUST read it and it made me angry I am not picking at old wounds itys new to me, and thats is one reason I left in the first place

[jaykay]

I describe my retriever as blonde - partly because she's that very pale colour and partly cos she's a mixture of dizzy and 'I'm so cute I don't have to do as I'm told' - with apologies to all true blondes  (I'm a redhead so can never get away with the cute bit  )

When someone corrects you, that's a fact, that's what they've done.

What interpretation we put on that or how it makes us feel, is our choice.

We could decide they'd been highhanded and feel offended. We could decide that they'd taught us something and feel grateful. We could just observe 'x is particular that things are correct' and think whatever we want to think about that.

To misquote Eleanor Roosevelt 'no-one makes me feel anything, without my permission'

I love this forum - and the huge variety of helpful and wise personalities on it. I shall (probably  ) never offend knowingly and I hope I shall be forgiven if I do so unintentionally 

[Rosemary]

Well said, jaykay.

[Sandy]

My lab is a typical dizzy blonde too..I am not 

[jaykay]

Lol, what are you Sandy?
I am the archetypical hotheaded redhead. I try so hard not to be a cliche - and fail    At least I have empathy with my 170 teenagers 

[Sandy]

Well, I was sort of light brown, spent most of my life blonde and now hidding away the grey with blond, I had an assesment made when I fostered years ago and it began in such a true way, I intitialy appear dizzy but am very stable and stand my ground not easily stressed..... as well as passionate        (Steve may disagree with that one)

[jaykay]

I intitialy appear dizzy but am very stable and stand my ground not easily stressed

sounds like a good combination