[Tiva Diva]

Only just seen your post.
I'm a doctor, and have been part of a team treating facial cancer. Try to be positive: many of these cancers can be treated by surgery and radiotherapy. I've reviewed patients still going strong more than 10 years after their diagnosis.
Try to get an idea of the outlook from the consultant. Be blunt: I'm sorry to say that we doctors are too often afraid of frightening patients and their families to be honest. The truth is always less frightening than your worst fears.
Be strong for each other, and good luck.

[Sandy]

Thats such a nice post Tiva DIva, I agree, there are plenty of people walking around the planet that have had some horrendus illnesses etc and after treatment, live on!!!! I am sure he will be fine after treatment, as I said earlier, you never know what life throws at you!!!!!

[faith0504]

Thank Tiva Diva, the consultant was very open and honest on wednesday, which my OH  really appreciated, "the truth hurts but lies worse", im all for frank, open and honest talk, i would rather know what is going on and deal with it, im going with my OH  on monday to meet the consultant and have a chat with him, we wont know until monday or tuesday if it is actually operable, when the doc has seen the mri, everything is crossed so that it can be operated on, and the operation is successful, then radio therapy, then full recovery, the unoperable option is not something i cant comtemplate at the moment.
He has had a hard day today, he is not able to do as much before he gets tired, which he finds frustrating, he has slept alot today and been sore, weight is dropping off him, which is quiet scary, 1 stone in the last two weeks, and im sure he has lost some this wednesday his trousers seem so loss, i have not said anything its just my observation, but his appetite is good, apart from its sore when he eats, he is eating well.

The wedding is booked we saw the registar this after noon, all the forms and id are sorted, and the process has started, were having a humanist wedding at home(hopefully) we get married on the 4th april( my birthday) we can change the location to the hospital if needed. That really picked both of us up this afternoon, cant wait 

Everyone has taken the nightwear dress code very well, everyone gets as to why and also agrees it will be a laugh, (apart from my mother she is not very happy, but hey ho she will get used to it, nightwear it is) a friends son is going to do the bagpipes for us, my OHs son is going to do the food for us.

I just need to pick myself a nice item of nightwear  and decide on the vows we want to say, arranging the wedding is definately giving my OH something positive to think about, its taking his mind off things, which has got to be a bonus.

DOGANJO i went on utube this morning and listened too "its going to be a bright sunshiny day" i have been singing it in my head alday, thanks   

[Sandy]

Clothing is nothing, just enjoy your bright shinning day!!

[faith0504]

I had a blonde moment with the registar yesterday she was talking about the bride, and i sat there thinking, who is she talking about,  , then about 5 minutes in i looked at my OH and said is that me , they both looked at me and said yes  ,  i went bright red ,  it didnt dawn on me till then 

An other lovely day here, so hopefully i can keep the positive mood going today, keeping waking up thinking is this nightmare over, but no its still here, so a few brews, then take on today, and make it a good one, and the animals are being fantastic, keeping me busy, keeping me grounded, and making me smile,

Hope everyone has a good day today, with whatever you do 

[The Woodsiders]

Good luck to you both

[pikilily]

Faith you are an inspiration.....in your honour I got on my naughty mare today, and rode 'in the moment'. I kept saying to myself 'just do it today, you might not be able to tomorrow'  ....and tomorrow i will do the same; enjoy the day, as you have said, and make the most of it.

it was the most wonderful feeling....thank you, thank you, thank you!!! 

thank you so much for the kick !!
Emma T

[faith0504]

oh bless, well done you, positive thinking goes along way, please let me know how you get on with her, i bet your still flying high 

Were all doing ok, OH is doing ok, he gets tired very quickly, but were keeping his spirits up and having a laugh, he has been sorting out our wedding service today, because were having a humanist wedding we can decide and create our own vows and the content, he has been remminising over how we met, escapeeds we have had, and putting all our adventures together to make our wedding service, im still struggling trying to word my vows but i will get there, my head is struggling to concentrate on any one thing for to long, but it will be sorted by tomorrow, when we meet up with the wonderful gentleman that is going to marry us.

OH has just realised that it is his last day at home before battle comences on monday, extra effort from me and his son needed to tomorrow, i think.

We can fall to bits when were home alone next week, i dont want to at the min, as he is worrying enough, dont want him worrying anymore.

[knightquest]

My thoughts and best wishes are with you both, all the time Faith.  

Ian

[doganjo]

oh bless, well done you, positive thinking goes along way, please let me know how you get on with her, i bet your still flying high 

I won't bore you with details (may tell you one day) but I have had to stay strong twice in the last few years for my kids as well as myself.  It isn't easy, but good friends do help. That is what we are here for.  You are the wind beneath his wings.  We'll keep you flying too. xx

[fruitfarm]

All best wishes for tomorrow Faith. Your courage is an inspiration and puts into perspective a lot of the silly little things we worry so much about. Stay positive, stay strong and shout at us whenever you feel the need!

[faith0504]

Feel terribly sick this morning, really bad headache, but today is going to be a good day.

did anyone see the big moon last night?? it came out here about midnight, it was huge and so so bright, and its a glorious morning here there is some warmth in the sun already,

its my little mini shetland fillies first birthday today, keep thinking about the time she was born it was incredible, her mum allowed me to be there, to share the experience with her, what an honour that was.

hope you all have a fanastic sunday wherever you go and whatever you do 

[bloomer]

well i'm off to church this morning and will be adding your OH to my prayers...

I don't have good experiences of the C word so all I can say is be strong and fight it together, I love the sound of a pyjama wedding 

[faith0504]

Thank you BLOOMER 

[McRoxy]

Hello there everyone who has responded to this string. I am Faith's OH.

I have found the response to Faith's original post overwhelming and am sure that with all of your support and encouragement that we shall beat this cancer together. Faith is a wonderful and caring person who has been a huge source of inner strength and inspiration for me. She will not let me get down, she is a real fighter and the most caring person I know. Your support for both of us means a lot to both of us.

I would like to say a BIG THANK YOU to you all. We shall let you know how things go and I'm sure that you will respond as you have shown above.

Lastly I want you all to know that I love my OH very deeply and cannot thank her enough for all she is doing for me and will have to do to help me pull through this. It will not be easy for either of us but having this forum to use for discussion and to draw strength from will prove to be a great help indeed.

Please keep this string going as I can see that I am not the only one involved with it that has an illness to deal with and I am sure others will gain strength and support for just reading the posts as the come in.

Once again I cannot thank you all enough for taking the time to put your own thoughts and good wishes down in writing and post them here. Stay in touch.