Thank Tiva Diva, the consultant was very open and honest on wednesday, which my OH really appreciated, "the truth hurts but lies worse", im all for frank, open and honest talk, i would rather know what is going on and deal with it, im going with my OH on monday to meet the consultant and have a chat with him, we wont know until monday or tuesday if it is actually operable, when the doc has seen the mri, everything is crossed so that it can be operated on, and the operation is successful, then radio therapy, then full recovery, the unoperable option is not something i cant comtemplate at the moment.
He has had a hard day today, he is not able to do as much before he gets tired, which he finds frustrating, he has slept alot today and been sore, weight is dropping off him, which is quiet scary, 1 stone in the last two weeks, and im sure he has lost some this wednesday his trousers seem so loss, i have not said anything its just my observation, but his appetite is good, apart from its sore when he eats, he is eating well.
The wedding is booked we saw the registar this after noon, all the forms and id are sorted, and the process has started, were having a humanist wedding at home(hopefully) we get married on the 4th april( my birthday) we can change the location to the hospital if needed. That really picked both of us up this afternoon, cant wait

Everyone has taken the nightwear dress code very well, everyone gets as to why and also agrees it will be a laugh, (apart from my mother

she is not very happy, but hey ho she will get used to it, nightwear it is) a friends son is going to do the bagpipes for us, my OHs son is going to do the food for us.
I just need to pick myself a nice item of nightwear

and decide on the vows we want to say, arranging the wedding is definately giving my OH something positive to think about, its taking his mind off things, which has got to be a bonus.
DOGANJO i went on utube this morning and listened too "its going to be a bright sunshiny day" i have been singing it in my head alday, thanks