I sent hima very polite E Mail and then gave it all more and more thought, he had been talking to my youngest about comming up here and she said it was not a good idea to him and knew exactly what I mean, he still thinks I belong to him as he let slip once and said to my OH "you are not part of the family" that was when I had been seperated and with my OH for more than 6 years!!!!! A few months after we seperated he went to see my eldest in Austrailia, she was on a working holiday there at that time, now she lives there, me and her were very close, even going uni together, anyway, I could have gone with him but he said it was not right!!! he would not even go to parents evening once we had seperated yet when he found a new women he went to them and made a fuss about the exclsion of her 2 sons!!!! He IS a control freak and I think he may well have got the message