Goosie,
check out the menopause matters forum before you shell out any cash and deffo before you go to the GP. If you dont want to go for the HRT then there is a section on alternative therapies and these ladies are all lovely and supportive and tell it like it is. There are guidance notes for Hubby's and if you decide to try HRT ( I did and I have seen a huge improvement ) you can gen up on what to say to the DR and what to ask for.
There ate lots and lots of HRT treatments available as tablets, gel, patches, pessaries etc and synthetic and non synthetic hormones so you may need to play around with a few before you get whats right.
Good luck hun. x