[Marches Farmer]

When my mother was becoming more frail I suggested she putl her savings and bank account in our joint names but kept all the paperwork, cheque books and so on herself.  She'd already sold her house years before and we'd bought a house and used her savings to build on an annexe, so we managed to do without a solicitor.  I have no idea why funerals, even the simplest, are so very expensive.  You get a list of charges but have no idea how they came to those figures.  If it was a building project I'd want a lot more information!

[Fleecewife]

how do you pre-pay for a funeral?
it cost £2500 to cremate my mother and that was all she had in the bank so that was ok as I don't know how I would have paid for it otherwise.
I have considered donating my body to medical research as we live near Aberdeen hospital atm, but when we move we will be much more remote so it probably wouldn't be a convenient thing to do if they have to ship me a long way. 
I do like the idea of my ashes put out to sea so when I find my forever home that's probably what il plan.

My aunt organised hers through Dignity (horribly close to Dignitas but distinctly different  ) then they liaised with Weyman's in Cambridge, the funeral director - a wonderful lot.

Costs include newspaper announcements, paying the person who conducts the service, hire of a room, food, burial plot, coffin, hearse, four big strong chappies to humph the coffin, grave digger, flowers possibly, registering the death plus buying death certificates.  Probably more, and that's just for the day of the funeral.
My aunt's affairs were very complicated so I needed the services of a solicitor, who is a joint executor - in fact for some reason there are two solicitors who are executors as well as me - I'm expecting their charges to be enormous as their hourly rate is humungous (how come they get paid to be executors and I don't  .


I'm scared that if my OH goes first I'll lie and moulder for a grossly long time before I'm found.  I watch too many CSI type programmes to think that will be anything but ghastly for whoever finds me 

[shygirl]

thanks - that's handy to know.

we got an itemised bill for my mothers funeral. I think we were charged £300 for the room we sat in to discuss our requirement. we must have only been there for 30 mins.
the thing is no-one is in a position or frame of mind to complain at the time. I think that's why prices are ridiculous. and when insurance options are there - that keeps the costs up too - just look at vet bills.

[RUSTYME]

When i kick the bucket , i will most likely rot where i drop . Won't really bother me , i'll be dead .
I am going to be buried on my land , all legal as long as you own the land or have the permission of the owner .
My death will be registered and that will be it . Any expenses the vultures want to try to thieve from my estate ,  well they will sh*t out . The land will be in my niece and  nephews name , and i don't do money , tough .
My niece and nephew have been told to tell the vultures to spin .
The corrupt system will gain not one penny from my death   .

[mojocafa]

Only just read this thread as by reading title I thought fleece wife was colouring her wool

[Fleecewife]

Only just read this thread as by reading title I thought fleece wife was colouring her wool

    It's all in the spelling 

[shygirl]

Only just read this thread as by reading title I thought fleece wife was colouring her wool

    It's all in the spelling 

same here 

[benandjerry]

   It's all in the spelling 

or the reading, I read it as in dead......     But perhaps that's coz as yet my first thought isn't  Even though I got a spinning 'something' from the wool festival.... Can't remember what it is now....