For what it's worth, here's my two bob....
I think anything that can be done to encourage, empower and bring on youngsters these days has to be admired and commended....
Look at it this way, if you were a football coach, you'd help the boys...a beauty therapist, the other girls. but your not....you have a wealth of experience with horses and a youngster that is bursting to learn...so what's the issue???
I look on it that I am (thankfully, and by the grace of God) lucky enough to be able to support my two daughters (9 and 17) and their Mum (no comment xx
) in their pursuit of owning and caring for horses....however....they work for everything they have. They and they alone are responsible for mucking out, grooming, feeding etc. which is made easier as we have our own stables... they also have to do other jobs around the farm and they all get stuck in. I also include school report cards, general behaviour and of course level of cheek aimed at me and their Mother as an indicator of when they can buy something off the wishlist...my kids are by no means "spoiled"..far from it. They have a work ethic installed..lol
So, what I'm really trying to say is it would be a travesty not to do all you can, for both of you as you know you'll love it
, especially if as you say...other things in her wee life are not so good. Balance...you'll get your reward in heaven, plus you'll also glow with pride as you watch her grow into a mature, thoughtfull and hard working young lady.....