Just a quick update, after DITW's suggestion of valerian i looked at OH's herbal sleeping tabs and they contian it so i crushed half a one in a banana for rarfy and it seemed to do the trick, on saturday he was almost back to normal so much so we brought his brothers back to him and he promptly decided to fight them both, i then sent nearly 2hrs keeping them from fighting, eventually they all settled in a heap in the straw along with me!
So from seeming disaster to full recovery, he can trot off to the butchers with his brothers, job done. i think i will defo cry about these 3 as they have been a real struggle to rear what with the bad weather and lack of veg. but they have had the best life i can give them and thats what counts.
Thanks for all your help and kind thoughts
mandy