If it's a genuine aggressive trying-to-kick-
you kick, rather than a that-feels-horrid irritated stamp, I'd be using choice words - and probably a smack with a blue pipe - too!
Then I'd calm down
, forget focussing on getting her milk in my tea, and build up slowly. So each day, do the routine, wash, dry and fiddle on with the bag, do a few squirts, lots of praise when she's good. If she kicks, try not to lose your temper (I know it can be hard!), persist until you get
some, even if it's only three squirts, without her kicking, praise her and stop on a 'high'.
Hopefully over time, the amount you get will increase and eventually she'll stop being silly.
The other thing I do with mine when I'm training them, is I give them enough cake to eat while I get them tied up, washed and dried, then just a bit at a time. They know there's more cake, but I only give them a bit more when they've been standing nicely letting me take some milk. I
never give them cake to distract them when they've just kicked me. They don't make the association as quickly as a dog would, but in time they do get the message that if they want that cake they can see but not reach, they have to let you take some milk.
Also, I spend time with them, fussing them, rubbing the top of the tail and down around the udder and back, at other times during the day, so that my only interation with them is not just when I'm trying to raid the milk bar.