Author Topic: Disability...do you tell your employer or not? (Read 8534 times)

doganjo · « **Reply #30 on:** December 21, 2012, 10:30:27 am »

Quote from: Alistair on December 21, 2012, 10:22:27 am

And also learn to use full stops and commas, sorry for my dreadful grammar, I am ashamed

At least it's readable and your speloling is OK!

happygolucky · « **Reply #31 on:** December 21, 2012, 11:07:18 am »

Alister I totally agree, its pointless doing work that makes life hard for you,

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don't use computers, only my iPad, I don't use a mobile phone, I have created my own bubble that has as little unknowns as possible and I'm happy, I control me, nobody else controls me.

Just doing things for yourself has made me better, I have some self esteem now

I do think Steve learns by doing things for himself, if left with no help he works things out and then remembers everything, Alister you are obviously a very intelligent person that can also push themself, the push is all important, no use having a Porche engine and a Noddy driver

Steve is incredibly bad with I.T. although I often leave him and he can do things!! strangely his non related brother is brilliant at IT, that's what he does for a job and he is also Dyslexic!
As for jobs and intellect, many jobs are more suitable than others, Steve is no good at DIY so work on a building site is not good either and other similar jobs, although he does push himself and works hard and likes physical stuff, but something like accountancy would be ideal, our accountant is Dyslexia and he makes it all so easy to understand and he is Chartered too, a lovely man indeed. I know some people have issues with numbers but to Steve numbers are his key, he loves anything to do with numbers, I joke about all autistic people I worked with love" Countdown"

He also is good at reading time tables etc.......and he did go for a train job but has not met the criteria!!

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Best advice I can give is find something that you can do for yourself, use the time when there is no work to develop yourself to change your reliance on working for others and work for yourself it is so rewarding, at the same time identify what your problems are and manage them as honestly as you can so those strategies work in the real world , you can't manage everything but life can be a whole lot easier just by accepting yourself and being honest with yourself

and ALister, I may just print your post out and pin it to our bedroom door, that has touched me so much as its spot on!!!!!!!! THANKS!!!!!!!

Lesley Silvester · « **Reply #32 on:** December 21, 2012, 03:37:22 pm »

Yes, people do tend to confuse having dyslexia with lacking intelligence. Eintein was dyslexic and I don't think they come much more intelligent.

Pel · « **Reply #33 on:** December 22, 2012, 06:38:00 pm »

Both hubby and I have dyslexia, though hubby has it a lot worse than I and is a little dyspraxic too. We dont mention we have dyslexia. sometimes it asks if your disabled twice, once by the law and once by "do you think yourself as disabled". Hubby answers yes to one, and no to the other.
Since I have very mild dyslexia, its not really an issue in the work place, once I know a routine it gets done quick... its only if i have to write, that it becomes an issue, as to have readable hand writting it takes ages to write. My sentence structure can also be all over the place too, but usually not an issue with short letter writting. If my dyslexia was going to affect my job, then I would mention it.

Hubby has just finished a PHD, and is now a Research Assistant at the local university, who mainly does teaching of maths and physics upto Masters level.

Lesley Silvester · « **Reply #34 on:** December 22, 2012, 09:53:22 pm »

Quote from: Mad Goatwoman of Madeley on December 21, 2012, 03:37:22 pm

Yes, people do tend to confuse having dyslexia with lacking intelligence. Eintein was dyslexic and I don't think they come much more intelligent.

In case anyone didn't realise, that was supposed to say Einstein.

Pel, no doubt your husband had to work harder than others but it just shows what can be achieved. The educational psychologist who assessed me for dyslexia also had a PhD and several more academic qualifications is also dyslexic.

happygolucky · « **Reply #35 on:** December 23, 2012, 12:18:57 am »

It annoys me when people think Dyslexic people just cannot read or are not intelligent...I worked and taught Dyslexic students for years and they all were as different as we all are, yet they all had a diagnosis of Dyslexia and I found ways to explain things clearer....I have to go over and over t hings with my husband until he clicks...we are doing some DIY tonight and that's been a hard slog....putting coving up, a few choice words from us both.... but now its nearly done and eventually he sorted it out himself, Life Alister said, the best way...Pel, you and your husband are good exaples, in my opinion, Dyslexic people have to work and study much harder, to some people things just soak up like a sponge, to some one with dyslexia, they absorbtion rate is slower!!!!

tizaala · « **Reply #36 on:** December 23, 2012, 09:14:03 am »

Some years ago when I lived in Winchester, there was a guy on the local news who had lost an arm and a leg in a car accident, he was told by the assesment doctor that he wasn't disabled enough to get disability benefit.
So , if you're not getting benefit then you're not disabled so you don't have to tell anyone.....

Lesley Silvester · « **Reply #37 on:** December 24, 2012, 09:52:58 pm »

That is incredible. My elder son was born with no left hand and a short forearm and he gets it. TBH there isn't much he can't do for himself but there was no question that he would be turned down. However, as a child he was turned down every year despite the fact that several others with children with the same disability got it straight away. It just depends which doctor you see.

The doctor who came to assess me for disability benefits recently wouldn't let me tell him what I couldn't do. He kept saying he only wanted to know what I could do for myself. the letter that came afterwards said that I didn't need help for lots of things that I do need help with (getting out of chairs, for example) so didn't need more than the lowest rate. My OH has to get out of bed every night more than once to help me as well as several times a day. Madness.

deepinthewoods · « **Reply #38 on:** December 24, 2012, 10:01:01 pm »

you have to appeal. everybody with a disability is being told their not disabled to try to reduce the welfare budget, appeal.

happygolucky · « **Reply #39 on:** December 24, 2012, 10:35:23 pm »

The questions they ask make it difficult for any one.........the funny thing is I walk for an hour itch the dogs each day...if I didn't then I would become more disabled.....the trouble is many jobs make things worse......

happygolucky · « **Reply #40 on:** December 28, 2012, 06:12:35 pm »

Sadly, benifit cheats are great at knowing what to say, the people who do suffer find it much harder to claime benifits that would make thier work easier.
When my husband worked for the council they were fantastic, although some workers did not understand some of his problems...
I never forget working after I had my hip operation, it had only been 6 weeks and one social worker asked me to collect stuff from a foster carer that had belonged to a girl that had been placed somewhere else, when I arrived the stuff was up steep stairs and consisted of several large bin bags of clothing etc, a huge TV and a full fish tank!!

I only took the bags and sent some one else around for the other stuff!!

Lesley Silvester · « **Reply #41 on:** December 28, 2012, 09:18:33 pm »

Don't they just? I know someone on full DLA because she has mental health problems and is supposedly at risk of suicide as she has taken numerous overdoses. She drives herself to hospital afterwards and no one who knows her will take her any more. The hospital staff no longer take any notice of her but still she goes - four times one week. She's told me a few times that she's taken too many pills and when I ask what she's taken, it's always something like four paracetomel and two ibuprofen. She just wants attention.

I am planning on appealing and expected to have to do so.

Happy, you're very wise knowing your limitations and sticking to them. I drove us to Liverpool and back on Christmas Day, (1 3/4 hours) rather than not see my grandchildren and daughter and regretted it afterwards - not seeing them but the drive was too much and I slept on her sofa when we got there and was fit to drop when I got home.

happygolucky · « **Reply #42 on:** December 28, 2012, 09:54:45 pm »

We had a women stay here on full DLA......she was the same...she rang the Dr, he came straight out, when he had gone she went off for the day...the Dr surgery is a few yards away. we have been doing a lot of DIY and that's done me I , mentally as I have to explain and Argue with my husband as to what we need to do...then shift stuff...
the government are cutting back but the wrong people are loosing out...my specialist was very sympathetic...