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Title: How do people cope???
Post by: littlelugs on July 14, 2013, 09:48:44 am
Hey all, I am just wondering how people cope with large jobs on their own? we have a few physically demanding jobs that need doing around ours (moving rubble etc.) and although I am trying I don't seem to be making a dent in them.
If we had money I would hire a man and a digger or just some paid labour for a couple of days, unfortunately I am not rich! (in fact I am at the furthest end of the spectrum from this) lol. so I am using a wheel barrow and doing it all by hand. It doesn't help that its hot weather because there is only so much you can do before your wiped out.
I love our place and I love the satisfaction you get when you finish a job and know that it was all your own hard work but I was just wondering how everyone else copes.
I was thinking of asking people to come and help for a day in return for beers and a bbq but to be honest I feel bad asking, as the few people I do know have their own places to run and they never seem to ask or need help.
To be honest this whole post is me procrastinating rather than lifting more rubble lol.
Lea
 
Title: Re: How to people cope???
Post by: Sbom on July 14, 2013, 10:11:39 am
I'm sure beer and BBQ will bring them!
They may be busy on there own places but a change is as good as a rest and they would not feel bad asking for help in return then.
We do a lot of work for work exchanges and it works well for everyone and doesn't dent the pocket.
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: doganjo on July 14, 2013, 10:38:24 am
Do you have a local smallholders group.  We have thought about work parties up here, and some of our members do get together for bigger projects.  I can't offer any physical labour so I have never asked, although i could barter admin services.  I usually just wait till my son has time to come over, but he can't do everything so I more often have to save up and pay fro work to be done.
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: happygolucky on July 14, 2013, 10:43:35 am
I try to do things but usually end up injured for weeks, my husband tries too but usually we get some one in....when they turn up!!
 
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: novicesmallholder on July 14, 2013, 10:48:07 am
Some-one once told me - "don't try to eat the elephant in one go, easier if you eat it chunk by chunk". Thats the attitude my wife and I have to take, in exactlly the same position as yourself. Had to run 200 meters of post and stock fencing = 100 posts, just set myself a target of 15 posts at a time (sinking posts with hand held post rammer), and it will be done when it is done, finally got it done. It is hard, especially when you have a full time job as well, but we count ourselves lucky, because not everyone can experience the pleasures (and awful setbacks) of keeping livestock, and producing your own food.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: Bionic on July 14, 2013, 10:58:25 am

I was thinking of asking people to come and help for a day in return for beers and a bbq but to be honest I feel bad asking, as the few people I do know have their own places to run and they never seem to ask or need help.
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Perhaps they never ask for help because they are like you and think everyone else is managing fine
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: shygirl on July 14, 2013, 11:01:44 am
we have been in a similar situation. we used to do loads of manual labour with wheel barrows etc but after a few years little injuries kept appearing, like tennis elbow / strained shoulders etc. which took months to get better. so i feel for you. 3 weeks work can be done in 2 hrs with a digger so its frustrating.
if you do 10 loads a day without fail, jobs do get done without tears  ;)
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: littlelugs on July 14, 2013, 11:13:19 am
that's what I am doing at the moment as much as I can per day without killing myself. it's good to know that others are in the same position and doing the same thing. It's easy to think that people don't have problem jobs and that they just throw money at it to get it done.  ;D
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: northfifeduckling on July 14, 2013, 11:47:39 am
I don't...despair at OH's procrastination and lack of mates who could help. I am now at the point where I decided to pay people to do jobs, sad, sad, sad - not as it was planned!  :rant: :&>
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: littlelugs on July 14, 2013, 12:17:42 pm
Am hearing you and feeling your pain NFD. have just sent out a desperate text and facebook message for help. its my own fault really, trying to surprise my OH when they get back from a wedding but the trouble is I have only got a week to get it done, and I guess I imagined it wouldn't be as hard as its actually turning out to be. (sometimes I think my brain thinks I am superhuman or something) lol
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Post by: RUSTYME on July 14, 2013, 01:27:20 pm
Hard when you have a time limit to work to .
I don't work to time limits , it gets done when it gets done .
When i got my place i had to clear lots of stones off the fields and fill huge ruts in the track , so filled 2 buckets at a time and carried them to the track , too muddy for wheelbarrow . Then i started to dig the veggie plot . 12" down is a layer of stones/boulders 15" deep , i stopped counting bucket loads at 222 . 10 years later the ruts are sort of filled , the fields sort of clear and the veggie plot grows the best stones i have ever had , 'still' .
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: shygirl on July 14, 2013, 01:58:42 pm
the problem is the price any professionals charge when they do help.
iv lost count of the number of blisters, sore backs, flat tyres etc we have had. also the cars we have wrecked by using them to lug rocks, water etc. and the hours which could be saved by having the right machinery, if only we could afford it.
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: john and helen on July 14, 2013, 02:20:49 pm
ive always tried to do many things in a day, but just for a short time..my helen had got use to it now  :roflanim:

if i am painting a room out ile just do one wall , then go off and do something else for an hour then something else

it all gets finished eventually,

my dear old dad use to do 1 hour a night in the garden....he use to set himself a task and stick to it...once the garden was in top condition, it became easier, but he would never do more than that hour
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: lachlanandmarcus on July 14, 2013, 02:34:02 pm
The other thing is and I know it's not possible if there's a deadline involved, is that I try and avoid doing the heavy jobs in very hot weather, as I can get 10x as much done when it's cooler. However when the heat goes on and on that option doesn't always come!



Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: northfifeduckling on July 14, 2013, 02:59:23 pm
my own days just never have enough hours with kids, cooking, animals, gardening, tidying, work (see the order of priority  :roflanim: ) but OH has all the time in the world since he retired and just lets it pass by .... :rant: or maybe he's overwhelmed by the jobs he accumulated that never got finished...
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: NormandyMary on July 14, 2013, 03:07:26 pm
What ever happened to "Bob a job" week? Where is a little boy scout when you need one?
Seriously though, Ive often thought about doing the same thing and offering lunch and drinks in exchange for a few hours grafting for our friends. I may still have to do it as funds are dwindling and the pile of things to do is getting bigger by the week. One thing we didn't plan for when we moved over here, was OH's bad health. Thing is, you doing know what reception your offer will get until you put the offer on the table. Im sure if you have good friends, they will be more than pleased to be asked. It could be a fun day, something that could be carried on by the others if they have need of help. Good Luck!!!
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: carlb on July 14, 2013, 03:45:15 pm
Can you have a chat with local volunteer organisations and see if there are any volunteers in the area that want to get into farming/ agriculture etc?
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: Marches Farmer on July 14, 2013, 03:47:14 pm
I, too, break down the big jobs into small chunks and do just that much each day and no more.  This has included cutting back three fence posts' worth of field side hedge with secateurs each day (our contractor couldn't get on the field to do it last year) and sorting a field of docks (cut out 30 a day).
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: ellied on July 14, 2013, 04:21:50 pm
I can most definitely feel that pain too - I have huges lists of things that need done and no money to do them nor help to get them done most of the time as I am on my own and have virtually no income that isn't spoken for months in advance for hay or such.

In my case the answer is either very slowly and in terms of hot days starting early - I managed to get 2 of the fields sprayed for ragwort this year at the right time but he never came back to do the other 2 and after last year, when he was so late returning that the last two got sprayed and still needed large plants pulling barrow by barrow,  this year I have just got on with the other 2 myself, working 8-9 every morning because it has been too hot for me to do much heavy work.  They're done now and I've worked round 1.5 of the sprayed ones' edges pulling the plants the sprayer didn't get along the fenceline.

On another occasion I had to stop getting help with a chainsaw to take down trees because I couldn't pay the guy any more.  So this year my neighbour came with his chainsaw and took 2/3 of the wood in payment for his logburner.  It was 50/50 in principle but in practice I can't manage the big logs and he can, so I got the top half and the bigger stuff he took to split and saw himself.  I had to let go the idea of it being mine and settle for what I could get as better than the tree falling on my house (the root was damaged by flooding last winter so it needed down!).

I've had a couple come to stay and help in return for a free holiday base, they were away out most days but helped get a couple of major 2 person jobs sorted and that again was worth it to me.  I tried a lodger which worked for the 2 months she paid nothing and felt she owed me time, though she wasn't that much use in heavy work she did spell me with feeding a sick foal through the night and that was worth it in sleep.  Then she asked to stay on and pay rent, paid me only the 2/3 of it she got in benefit and never a penny of her own, then went to get a part time job to pay the rest and I never saw her let alone got help as she was always taking extra shifts, money for which she used to pay for courses and holidays and books but it all got a bit much for her so she moved out and I don't think I'd do that again!  I also lost my council tax single rate while she was here and of course got nothing towards that or household bills, so just got a load of paperwork and ended up out of pocket!

Now I just do what I can when I can manage, get a good day and I motor on til I can't do any more in case I don't get another good day for a while!  Then floored for a couple of days and behind again.  I think I have just let go of the big ideas and focused on the smaller stuff and the necessary stuff.  The barn roof came down in snow 2 maybe 3 winters back now, the rubble for a retaining wall at the barn edge has been on the roadside from a collapsed garden wall for 18 months because I can't see the point in moving it twice, the place looks a mess and could look amazing with money thrown at it, but I don't have money to throw so I live as it is.  And I used to help folk out all the time when I was young and fit and keen, but now I can't offer much at all so I don't ask.  I do offer what I can and hope at some point to build up enough global credit that I could get help in an emergency if I had a stay in hospital or on crutches or something, but I dont' want to waste any goodwill on anything less and I hate asking anyone for anything anyway.
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: doganjo on July 14, 2013, 04:38:33 pm
Ok, I'm a coordinator!  Would this work in central Scotland?

A database of people offering say 3 hours work at a time.  You bank the hours till needed, and you draw on that bank when you need a big job done - a single full day or 2/3 days.  No money exchanges hands and we all pay our own travel and food.

Discuss?
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: bloomer on July 14, 2013, 04:42:29 pm
Don't forget in central scotland I will also negotiate labour bills into finished goods need a couple of days work and know you have lambs to send this autumn always happy to negotiate :-)



Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: doganjo on July 14, 2013, 04:45:05 pm
That's the main problem though for me - I have nothing to trade. - until you need you tax return doing  :roflanim:  But knowing you, you've got that sorted too  :innocent:
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: shygirl on July 14, 2013, 04:52:39 pm

 I managed to get 2 of the fields sprayed for ragwort this year


what do use ellied? i was using stacato which works but kills the grass aswell. im sure it also made me ill with terrible swollen glands and sore throat as i was spraying by hand in a big field.
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: northfifeduckling on July 14, 2013, 05:24:44 pm
I used to be a member of the local LETS scheme (like a time bank but also includes goods swaps) which worked great for a time. Swapping massages and carbooty things for food and garden tidying. I'd book you, Annie for accounts stuff some time but don't know how I could help you as you are quite far away! :&>
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: suziequeue on July 14, 2013, 06:51:45 pm
I do what other people have suggested - just a little at a time. Try to work a job into your daily routine - e.g. a barrowful of rocks to go from here to there. I am always amazed that it seems to get done much more quickly than I anticipate.


Sometimes I set a timer and say I'm just going to do weeding for an hour and take a beeper with me. Sometimes I find that I want to carry on after the tie has elapsed because I have "got into it" and am enjoying it.


I divide jobs into one man and two-man jobs and try to do at least two two-man jobs at the weekend with my OH


We have a list of bigger projects which we save for when the WWOOFers come and we can work with them on those.


Big hard-landscaping jobs we get the professionals in - usually Malcolm from up the road.

Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: mojocafa on July 14, 2013, 09:24:33 pm
Of late ihave been struggling to manage as my oh had an accident . I simply couldn't cope with all the outside work , kids, back And forth to hospital. I ended up getting a company in to help me get on top of the growth and so far have managed to keep on top of it. It was a huge weight off my shoulders
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: Lesley Silvester on July 14, 2013, 10:20:22 pm
I also hate asking for help but now disabled, I have to. I employ a local lad at £5 an hour to do the jobs I can't. He's 16 so I'm paying above the minimum wage, but between school and college so is glad of a part tiem job.
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: benkt on July 14, 2013, 10:22:42 pm
We have an unfair advantage in a lot of these by having the community farm - I'm always guaranteed help on a Saturday. It can be a bit difficult to manage not knowing how many people will show up, it tends to range between 5 and 30 at the minute so I have to have enough ready to do if there are loads of people and not too much that must be done in case there are fewer.
For some of the jobs, like moving and levelling 20 tons of crushed concrete I asked a neighbour to pop round with his manitou and it took him about half an hour. Nothing asked for in return but a goose will be his come Christmas. For some bits of ploughing I get a lad in who works for a lot of the neighbouring farms - he has a little mf35 which fits our scale of field much better than the monster tractors everybody else has. That costs, but its well worth it in the end.
Having said all that, there's still too much to be done and I still end up working myself into back/muscle troubles by trying to do too much during the week on my own...
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: northfifeduckling on July 14, 2013, 11:10:16 pm
I also hate asking for help but now disabled, I have to. I employ a local lad at £5 an hour to do the jobs I can't. He's 16 so I'm paying above the minimum wage, but between school and college so is glad of a part tiem job.

I'm employing our youngest at the same rate for jobs in the garden and bird house clearing. She doesn't mind clearing poop and as we're so rural she can't get another job to earn herself a new laptop. Not much help for the heavy jobs but some help  ;) :&>
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: bazzais on July 15, 2013, 10:13:28 am
Dont set your aims too high - make a list of all the jobs big and small and break up the day of the big jobs by doing a few smaller ones - tick them off the list.

At the end of the day you can look at the list and a least a few things have been done and started.

Dont bust a bollock  trying to do one huge job in one go!
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: Derby_menagerie on July 15, 2013, 10:47:48 am
Ask a local lad, the £20 beers and BBQ would cost could get the job done with out it feel like you are getting people to do you a favour.  When I was 14 I use to do odd Jobs for folks in the next couple of villages, cleaning stones, painting, fences, mowing lawns, Power washing yards etc. Don't worry about it being hard work either at 14 I was 6ft and strong as an ox even thou I was build like a bean pole!
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: TheGirlsMum on July 15, 2013, 12:28:13 pm
Thanks for the Doc pulling rate (trying not to cut this year to try and get some roots out too) and managed 6 days worth of catch up with the excessive heat> I'm on my own most of the time and just do what I can manage as all manual.
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: Lesley Silvester on July 17, 2013, 06:16:11 pm
I also hate asking for help but now disabled, I have to. I employ a local lad at £5 an hour to do the jobs I can't. He's 16 so I'm paying above the minimum wage, but between school and college so is glad of a part tiem job.

I'm employing our youngest at the same rate for jobs in the garden and bird house clearing. She doesn't mind clearing poop and as we're so rural she can't get another job to earn herself a new laptop. Not much help for the heavy jobs but some help  ;) :&>

It's difficult for youngsters to find work when you live is a rural area. We are in a big town  :( but the lad that works for me  has other problems that make finding a job difficult. He is autistic so isn't easy but, if I explain what I want in easy steps, he gets on with it and he will ask if he is not sure. He's slow but very thorough.
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: FiB on July 18, 2013, 05:41:31 pm
you are definitely not on your own!  We have been wheelbarrowing for 2 years (not even good ones either - rusty knackers left behind by previous owners!!!  Just do what you can and then rest. It'll still be there tomorrow - preserving your health is THE most important thing (but just think - some people PAY to go to the gym  :roflanim: :roflanim: :roflanim: :roflanim: :roflanim:
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: shygirl on July 18, 2013, 06:13:04 pm
we are on our 5th wheel barrow and all the tools we bought when we moved in have been replaced many times. worn out with brute force  ::)  iv been a bit lazy this year because i dont want another injury.
Title: Re: How do people cope???
Post by: mab on July 19, 2013, 12:08:23 am
wheelbarrow here too, and like FiB they were inherited and not in A1 condition.  Although I've finally completed the cart for Rosie (the shetland pony) so I may be moving up a bit, once I've figured out how to attach all the bits of harness to her and the cart.


I also sometimes have to remind myself that I'm doing this 'cos I want to - not as a business - so I shouldn't worry if I'm not spending every waking hour digging, weeding, fencing, etc. But then I see the bracken / thistles or something and think 'I'm sure that's spread since last year' and start worrying that I have to do something NOW.


You could get some wwoofers?  This has been suggested to me, but I don't have anywhere decent to accommodate them unless they bring a tent, and my culinary skills are a bit thin (as I think you're expected to provide a meal).