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Title: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 15, 2012, 02:46:08 pm
Not for me but hubby, he is currently in work for an agency and is doing very very well BUT, as will all agency posts they can end suddenly, we both have years of experience with agency and i still work for one so do not need interview skills anymore, trouble is, so many people are being interviewed for so few jobs, my husband has an added problem that's labelled Dyslexia, I say that as it can effect different people in different ways but its basically his translation techniques, he spells much better than me but finds it hard to understand questions etc and will often take the wrong meaning....I keep saying he should explain his dyslexia at the start of an interview but also worry it will put people off, its fine saying equal rights but just how equal are they? 

SO, any any help would be great, I think he should have a short explanation of how he is effected and how he copes and compensates for his disability...I worry so much as he hates going to interviews as he looses his days wage and puts so much effort into them!!!!!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Bionic on March 15, 2012, 03:30:15 pm
Until I took early retirement last Sept I was a manager in an Investment bank (sorry peeps) and used to do quite a lot of interviewing.
I do believe that your husband should be honest but I wouldn't blurt it out at the begining of the interview.  Let them warm to him and see his merits first.
What I would be interested in is his ability to do the job and what he knows about the company he is applying for i.e. has he done his 'homework'
Previously I asked people what our company did and I have had someone say banking. Well erm.... yes
I worked in Foreign Exchange and its surprising how many coming for an interview didn't have a clue what it was. If they have done some homework then to me it shows they are keen.

I hope this helps
Sally
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Smalltime on March 15, 2012, 03:31:33 pm
Honesty is definately the best policy. I would be ready with evidence to demonstrate how I had overcome any difficulties that I had encountered over my career that were due to my dyslexia. In fact, my advice is just be ready with examples for everything, the world has gone evidence-based and tick-box mad when it comes to interviews. It may as well be a machine interviewing you, not a person, but thats life now. Good luck!  :thumbsup:
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Norfolk Newby on March 15, 2012, 03:42:31 pm
I can't claim to be particularly good at interviews but have had a lot!

Investigate all companies using the internet before going for an interview. If the job looks really attractive, do it before writing as you might want to adopt a particular writing style and content depending on what you find. Look for news on recent changes or expansion plans (or closures!) so that you have a picture of the business, places where it is based etc. All this is to understand the business and have something to talk about to show awareness when asked.

This may also cause you to have queries regarding the business and your role in it. A list of questions again shows preparation. It also avoids finding out later that the job has drawbacks like only being allowed to take a holiday when it suits them rather than you. In my opinion the more questions the better. You just have to be judicious when deciding which to ask. Some may seem trivial at the time.

Thirdly, practice before the real thing. Get a friend or partner to take the part of the interviewer. Discuss how the interview goes afterwards to see what changes you might adopt on the day.

It also helps to know in advance what to wear. Wearing a suit may be as inappropriate as wearing jeans and a T-shirt. If in doubt just phone in advance and ask. This avoids embarrassment on both sides.

Always arrive at least half an hour early so that you can relax with a cup of tea/coffee before the interview. Turning up late or out of breath is a bad start. If delayed, phone ahead and apologise. Never just arrive late without phoning even if this increases the delay. Obviously, this means having a contact number handy when you leave home.

If the job depends on papers like exam certificates, examples of reports etc. or letters of recommendation, make a folder with some clear pocket document holders. You can get these from somewhere like Staples or one of the on-line office supply places. This keeps these important papers tidy and together.

Don't be upset if the first interview fails. Consider it a dry run for the next (which is going to succeed!!).

Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 15, 2012, 03:53:14 pm
Thanks,  I obviously do not go to my hubby's interviews but I remember one asking if he had much experience with teenagers, it was for a role in Barnado's, he only mentioned one job with NCH and when he came out,  I said  "but you were a youth worker for years and blah blah blah " as well he lived with me and looking after foster children who were teenagers...he never mentioned any of that but worse was when out on a walk some one mention CVS and my hubby said he did that and when the other person mentioned an award scheme, my hubby said he got that for working with young teenage homeless in London, now that was the first I had heard and I have been with him for 19 years!! that's what I mean...he only answers stuff he has learnt from the job details and does his research but ignores or forgets stuff from the past or his skills etc, that's his major problem, ask him about holidays, Christmas's etc etc and he says he cannot remember.....he can research stuff and ask questions but when it comes to memories he has great difficulties, I used to have memories at the front of my head ready, maybe that's what I shall do with him tonight, practice, some interviews are very different so who knows!!!! I do feel for him!!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: smallholder in the city on March 17, 2012, 08:15:13 pm
Practice and prepare you can never do too much of either. we get anxious because we worry that we're not prepared/going to mess up if you've prepared/ practised you can challenge any negative anxious thoughts by reminding yourself how much preparation you've done. If you can get hold of a video camera tape yourself answering questions so you can see what your body language is like.

Work out what yourUSP (unique selling point) is for the job in question, what have you got that's different and then make sure you mention it/highlight it

It doesn't work for everyone but pretending that you are the person who already has the job can help.Don't think how would I answer that think how would the person who has been given the job answer it. 

And smile when you go into the interview ( nerves stop people from smiling and making eye contact which makes you look unfriendly)
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 17, 2012, 08:46:45 pm
Well, we had the chat and neither of us are nervouse at interviews, he reads loads about a job and always has questions ready, I asked  him to have some "examples" but he got mad and said, I cannot remember anything else, thats the difference, I take a lot to read and remember the facts but he can read the facts and remember if its not too far in advance but I have tons of examples of my work and past sucsesses and know my weakness and strenghs, however, he finds that hard!! Fingers crossed, there are soooo many after jobs and he hates to tell people he has dyslexia, he worked with a chap years ago who used to tell him off for asking questions (I do that too) thats all part of his dyslexia, once he gets what he has to do he is great!!!!!! as I said,,,fingers crossed and big THANKS!!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Lesley Silvester on March 17, 2012, 09:01:20 pm
I wish him luck.
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: doganjo on March 17, 2012, 09:20:31 pm
Good luck, Steve - it's always hard to do interviews.  I was lucky and rarely had to do many - seemed to be taken from one job to another (head hunted), but I remember one interview where Managing director asked me something about employment law, and my reply was " I don't know every word in the dictionary, but I know where the dictionary is kept"  he guffawed and I got the job on the spot event hough3 more folk were waiting outside!
Keep calm, he'll be fine. ;D
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Lesley Silvester on March 17, 2012, 11:19:47 pm
Love this story, Annie.  A friend of mine recently had an interview where she had to give a 10 minute presentation on some aspect of commercial law (she's a solicitor).  She got the job and was told that she was the only person who stuck to the 10 minute guideline and didn't try to cram too much info in.
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 17, 2012, 11:21:33 pm
We both used to go into jobs without much effort in Leices, but since we have been here and the current climate its been harder.....there are soo many people after the jobs so you have to be perfect!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Ina on March 18, 2012, 10:07:43 am
I can't claim to be particularly good at interviews but have had a lot!

Ditto!

What you can't prepare for are the prejudices your interviewers come armed with. I am sure that part of why I've not been able to get any decent jobs over the past 5 years is the fact that I am too fat and in my 50s. Of course, nobody would admit that, if you asked them - it's against the law -  which is why I don't ask for feedback after an interview, either; feedback from one set of interviewers doesn't help you get it right with the next set, as they might have entirely different prejudices. I have excellent references, answer all the questions in a way that shows I know what I'm on about, but younger and fitter looking (not necessarily fitter!) people get the jobs.

My pet hate are requests like "give us an example where you worked in a team". They've all been to the training courses on interview techniques and have been told that is what they must ask... I tend to say nowadays - I have worked in teams for the past 50 years, starting with my family, and if you want to know whether I am a good team worker, you'd be better off asking my former colleagues. Anybody "who's done their homework" expects this question, and has a suitable answer ready; I have worked with a lot of people who thought they were excellent team workers, but who's idea of team work was - they told the others what to do, and the others did it... (Not my idea of team work, needless to say!) And then I give a "proper" answer, just to show that I've done my homework. Something not necessarily of my real experience, but something that shows I understand what they are looking for.

Oh, and questions about your communication skills are standard these days, too. Same problem. Lots of people, especially managers, supervisors etc think their communication skills are great if they stick to the "need to know" rule: they decide what we need to know, and then they might tell us. Question usually goes like "where in the past did you use your communication skills to good effect" - and I'm always tempted to say - "well, I'm communicating with you just now, aren't I". I find it really difficult to answer this in a way that interviewers might find "right". Does anybody here have an idea?

Oh, and btw, the more I prepare for an interview the worse I feel about it. I am regularly sick with it (which also doesn't help if you always look at interview as if you'd made a night of it!). The only job I did get was one that I didn't really care about - only a Saturday job, badly paid and not my line of work; so I was relaxed at the interview, and that obviously showed. I also have a full time job now, and I kind of slid into that - it was casual at first, without a proper interview. As soon as people see me working, they tend to want to hang on to me (although this is also not a job I really want to do). Anyway, the job is still temporary, so I have to keep looking. Not much hope now at my age...
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Lesley Silvester on March 18, 2012, 10:39:12 am
You try being sixty and looking for work.  And I know they are not allowed to ask your age on forms any more but I left school in 1968.  It's pretty obvious I'm not in my thirties.
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 18, 2012, 11:19:02 am
Its funny as I am 60 soon and still get offered a lot of jobs but I cannot do them due to all sorts of reasons. 

I am so cynical now, I know a lot of managers who know what to say but are crap   ::) poor at their job, they have a lot of confidence and can remember policies and procedures and know the correct terms, I had a very bad boss once, told this story soooooo many times, the funny thing is I was in an agency post at the time and loved the agency role but it was coming to the end so my boss told me to apply for a similar role with a project for disabled children, my team leader who was wonderful and clever also was asked to apply for the manager role, she did but her husband actually forgot to post the application, I got the job and the manager was some one who was in another job and for some reason they re deployed her, I can now understand why!!!  She was a nightmare and thought the only way to be a manager was to tell people off all the time.....I held my own while all the others in the team were cracking up, we all 4 of us were after other jobs, only one who was sweet stuck the job, I walked out t eventually due to her and my 2 colleges both left, one took her to a tribunal, she had a mini breakdown and was previously a policewomen and now high up in the job she got after leaving said job. The punch line of this is, I could not take my leaving any further as the man who ran the project was very clever and high up in Social Services so my work record would have been tainted, so, when asked in an interview how would you deal with colleges like that you would have to say go down the correct procedure but I know that's total rubbish in big organisations, you just get a bad name...buy the way the manager eventually got the sack but in these times its very hard to sack anyone, i had a long list of evidence I gave to the project leader and he did nothing, that particular women was dangerous...... 
Ironicaly I went back into the job I had previousely as an agency worker until another job I had was ready for me to start.  We used to be able to ring teams in Leics and walk from one job to another, admittidly agency although they often led to full time per posts, one was a lovley job but I had to refuse it due to the very low pay!!

Well, basiclay people who say the write words and look the part get the job!!!!  If anyone is looking into finding jobs a good idea is to stalk the workers on the job and see who and what they do all day...... ::)maybe not!!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: YorkshireLass on March 18, 2012, 11:34:37 am
Good luck, I hate interviews!

Another little practical tip is to go to the loo beforehand! You can also wash sweaty palms or warm up cold fingers ready for the crucial first handshake ;)

Can he take a bullet-pointed "CV" in with him with his awards etc, to refer to? This could then be an example of working around his difficulties...?
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Lesley Silvester on March 18, 2012, 12:15:00 pm
Sandy, I had a similar experience in my last job when I was being bullied and having lies told about me by my line manager.  I went to my department head to told me it was nonsense and that the woman wasn't like that.  I produced written proof from previous students that what she was saying (I wasn't doing my job properly) wasn't true. HoD said they were just saying that because they liked me.  I asked her if she had spoken to the teacher who was supposed to have complained about me (and who said she hadn't) and HoD hadn't taken that up, just taken line manager's word for it.  In the end I spoke to Union rep who said there had been loads of complaints to the union about this woman but the others were too scared to take it any further.  She spoke to my HoD and I found myself with a new line manager who was great and said I was doing well.  Unfortunately as the horrible one was also the co-ordinator for the course I taught on, I couldn't avoid her.  She then complained to my new line manager about something I reputedly hadn't done properly and this while there were threats of redundancies over our heads.  I was then offered very good terms if I took voluntary redundancy so I went for it.  No regrets at all.  My OH said I was much nicer to live with once I wasn't so stressed.
Trouble is, there is no work in Further Education due to the cuts and I'm not qualified for anything else.
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 18, 2012, 12:45:37 pm
I soo understand MGofM, seems like to get rid of people they promote them!!!!!!! THe other women I mentioned all applied for jobs and the first was applying while still in the crappy position I was in, the said manager gave her a very negative refrerance saying she challenge authority and did not do her job properly due to not doing as he manager told her, well, the job she was going for the b oss knew her and said "if she is challenging her manager she must be right as I know how good she is at her job" that was a lucky break as the neg reference got her a job BUT, I got a job, I was at my new desk first day when they forgot my reference and so they asked via the phone and of course it was horrid,  it said I appeared to know my job but clients upset me and I got stressed and also she said I challenged authority, the other ref I used was the other post that the manager was high up in and that said I had a lot of time off work, I had not actualy had any time off other than the last few days as I then had a lot of pain and had a hip operation a few weeks later!!! The long and the short was they had to send me home, I was furiouse and the job was duty and assesment in social work so they could not take some one on who suffered stress, my stress was the boss and not the clients!!!!!!!!thank fuly I got a fantastic job after and kept that job until I re located...my boss there was amazing and had himself suffered lots of bullying due to him being Irish, he went to prison and was lets say well connected, know one challenged him in the post as manager and he was the nicest man you could wish to meet, hes still a good friend, and what made me laugh, before I left we had some one very similar to the boss I used to have come to cover the extra work, she was at every one and I thought to myself, glad I am off soon, well apparently the said nice boss was talking to a client and went off to make them both a cup of tea and the not so nice worker complained and said you are always having tea breaks and the nice boss told her to F off!!!!! she took that up with the authorities and they came down on his side!! I rest my case, know one would challenge him, wish that one worked for me...

Stress is a big killer and I swore if I ever got envolved with some one who bullied or stressed me o ut, they would be ejected from my life!!

Working from home is fantastic, no office bullies and no travel costs!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sylvia on March 18, 2012, 01:20:28 pm
I've never had, nor wanted, a high powered job but I've got all the jobs I've had by lying in my teeth :o :o Including the one I'm just leaving after fifteen years! I have no formal qualifications so I've had to blag my way through life a bit.
I once had an interview at a pottery who wanted a "sponger and fettler" Had I any experience, I was asked. Oh, yes, said I, years of it! I didn't even know what a sponger and fettler was!! But I soon learned.
A chap we know when offering his C.V. had Bsc after his name. NO_ONE EVER QUESTIONED IT!!!!!! It stood for Bronze swimming cetificate ;D
Anyway, good luck to Sandy's beloved. I shall have a word with St. Anthony who is good at finding things, even jobs :) :bouquet:
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 18, 2012, 01:31:39 pm
 :wave: Just love that one, I had a friend who got a job that required  him to speak french and he used to put qualifcations like that too but always got the job he went for!!!!

I remember some one putting in thier CV that they had done   :trophy: a ride at Alton Towers!!!!!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Lesley Silvester on March 18, 2012, 03:28:13 pm
Well there are very few jobs out there that I could do.  I have sent off my CV a few times but never hear again.  MInd you as it only shows teaching experience, I'm not surprised.  I'm sure that they look at it and think, she's going to be off as soon as a teaching job comes up.  I know that's what I would think.  Ah well, pension kicks in in May.
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: tizaala on March 19, 2012, 07:57:57 am
It's an unfortunate fact Sandy , but once you are over the age of 40 you are considered unemployable despite being more reliable . I was a butler for nearly thirty years, then I wanted a change so I got through the 3 part exam to become a driving instructor and had my own school for 10 years. But that is all feast and famine. I saw a job advertised for a prototype engineer in a thermoplastic factory and applied for interview , that consisted of being walked round the factory by a manager and then I was shown into a small cupboard of a workshop with a bench and a vice and a chart of outstanding prototype orders that were 9 months behind schedule. It was 2 months later that I got a letter offering me the job as I was the only applicant. People were frightened of the description " Prototype Engineer Thermoplastics " The guy I took over from was counting the days to his retirement and spent most of his working day walking round the factory chatting to the other workers instead of getting through the backlog of orders. I caught up with the work in 2 months  by doing 90 hours a week ,  So tell your husband to list his dissabilities on his CV , this will save him the problem of explaining them, so when he gets invited to be interviewed they already know his limitations and are aware. Go for it.
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 19, 2012, 09:05:03 am
I am sure its worse for men, my husband is not yet 40 so not over the hill,  ::) however, I am  ::). My husband has an aim to get into a permanent job as soon as he can, we both do a lot of agency work and you get a bit paranoid at times and work can stop any time, luckily the B&B ticks us over, we only ever have a few days without a guest, trouble is that creates problems too as its a huge house to keep warm and maintain, although it also keeps me a bit fitter,m I am always on the go, my frequent pit stops for the comp are necessary  ;), otherwise I would grind myself down too much. 
My last position in England was getting people back to work, well trying too, I wrote CV's letters etc and tried to find peoples interests and pick out things they could do, a good idea is to put a list of likes and dislikes.. Its a maze finding jobs but often some voluntary work helps get your foot in the door although I do not want to do any more free work as my time is precious!!!!!!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: doganjo on March 19, 2012, 09:11:42 am
Don't worry, Sandy another year and you'll get your pension! ;D ;D ;D  Then you'll be rich! ::)
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 19, 2012, 09:31:49 am
I have another 2 years , born in 1952...I bet they will get rid of free bus travel too soon, I shall have nothing to look forward to, I will be better off with a pension but only if steve keeps in work, I think it will be great!!!! I now otherwise the pension is not much but with a young man in tow its not going to be a hardship!!!!!  I will get a rail car though, that should help me get around cheaply!!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Lesley Silvester on March 19, 2012, 05:02:25 pm
My pension will be about three times what I get in JSA at the moment because they will no longer take into account what I earn and what my OH gets in benefits.
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 19, 2012, 05:13:47 pm
Something to look forward to then, you must be around the same age and get your pension the same time, course it should have been this year when I am 60 but they moved the age just when I got there!!!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: doganjo on March 19, 2012, 05:22:13 pm
The State Pension is made up of two parts, the basic State Pension and the additional State Pension. Different people get different amounts of each.
The amount of State Pension you get depends on how many qualifying years of National Insurance you have.
 
In 2011-12, a single person can get up to £102.15 a week basic State Pension, though some people get less than this. Many people get more than this amount, because they also get an additional State Pension.
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 19, 2012, 05:38:11 pm
Then I will know steve only wants me for my money!!!!!! ;)  may save up for some new wellies then!!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: doganjo on March 19, 2012, 06:17:02 pm
Then I will know steve only wants me for my money!!!!!! ;)  may save up for some new wellies then!!
;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Lesley Silvester on March 19, 2012, 09:17:46 pm
Something to look forward to then, you must be around the same age and get your pension the same time, course it should have been this year when I am 60 but they moved the age just when I got there!!!

I was 60 last April so just missed out.  Roll on May 6th.  I intended working until I was 65 at least but being made redundant put paid to that.
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: benkt on March 19, 2012, 11:49:45 pm
I've been working as a freelance/consultant for years now and have to admit to really enjoying 'interviews' with prospective new clients. Partly this is because I've done an awful lot of it and so I try to view it as a (slightly more grown up version of) of a 'dressing up' game. A bit of research on the web shows you what the place is going to be like and you pretend to be that kind of person and go in to the interview thinking 'could I be this kind of person every day?'. Sometimes it involves doing something dull whilst wearing a suit and I quickly decide I couldn't! Usually in those cases they decide they don't want me either of course!
With the community farm, I now only have time for part-time gigs which makes the whole thing much harder. Having said that,  I've just found a nice new client that suits me down to the ground (two days a week, one from home) and doing exactly the kind of thing I think I'm best at so hopefully won't be doing the interview thing again for a few months.
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 27, 2012, 07:09:22 pm
Well, My hubby had a brilliant interview, he said it was the best he had been too, he read up on the company and knew every thing they asked him and was comfortable etc, neither of us get nervouse around people or at interviews....well, he did not get the job, they said there was so many brilliant interviewees, thats the problem, so many people are after so few jobs, we are both devistated although we half expected it, worse still the agency post he has been covering for a few weeks is ending at the end of the week and he was only told today...so now we are both down in the dumps again....we had some money put buy for some work on the house now that will pay our huge fuel bill...we have guests in but thats not enough to cover everything so....where do we go now??? apply for £6.ph posts I suppose...I have work offered all the time but my back is very unreliable..now I am rambling, well at least we can do some house cleaning until the agency find more work!!!!!!!!!


Before I go, those who have similar issues would know, although my hubby will and has worked on building sites etc, he does not always grasp things and on a site the other men will not tollerate him not understanding, he certianly will work his socks off but not sure its the sort of job for him!!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sharnoak on March 27, 2012, 09:32:01 pm
I can so sympathise with the whole-'we loved you, but...' answer. This is the first time I have ever been without a job for such a long time, and although a part of me loves not 'working', the bank balance doesn't! It is so frustrating when you think an interview has gone well, only to hear the fateful words above. I try to be honest in interviews, but sometimes I think that actually works against me and I would have been more successful of I had bulls^%$ed it! I also find it bizarre that they need 4 people to interview for what is basically either a customer service or data entry position-or is this just another example of too many people being overpaid for doing sweet FA?  ;D ;D

Hope Steve finds something soon-all best wishes winging their way from Oz!
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Lesley Silvester on March 27, 2012, 10:13:53 pm
sorry he didn't get the job, Sandy.  Know what you mean about the money.  As soon as you get a bit of money to do a job that needs doing, something even more urgent, eg fuel bill, pops up.
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: Sandy on March 27, 2012, 10:47:45 pm
I have worked with a lot of Bull S^ters and they know what to say and have confidence, get the job but are crap at it!!!!!! we are a bit devistated as its so hard, the B&B does very well but thats just not enough to keep us going!!!! I keep seeing jobs but like a lot of people on here, my body can be crap some times and its embarrasing to not be able to get up or down when caring for people...I love working with people and put extra into any care jobs..I did put an add in for care at home work and got a reply but I changed my mind, then this week I got another enquiry!!! I do not know..may just HAVE to sell my body......... ::)
Title: Re: Any good interview tricks or advise
Post by: doganjo on March 27, 2012, 10:49:28 pm
So sorry to hear about Steve, Sandy.  I know how tight it is for you.  I hope some agency work comes very quickly.  It's at times like this I am so glad I have a pension as well as the Government one,  but it is so maddening that they have moved the goal posts for that too.  I wish I could do something to help.