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Community => Coffee Lounge => Topic started by: kaz on March 11, 2009, 09:12:17 pm
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Not been around too much lately as hubby decided to fall down stairs and hurt his head. He is still critical in ITU and at this moment could still die, but they are hoping that the MRI scan done on his spine today is clear so they can start to wake him up and access the damage. What a bloody awful week.
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I really feel for you - been in exactly the same place as you but mine didn't survive. John fell off Lochnagar, some youngsters up ahead of him knocked a snow cornice down on him and he fell 1000 feet. Survived, was even joking with the helicopter crew, but had massive internal injuries, so had to go on life support. We had a terrible roller coaster for a few days and eventually we had to admit defeat. What I learned was what wonderful people we have in our ITU departments, they all worked so hard, we all prayed so hard, and what magnificent pieces of machinery they operate, and how much they involve the families (if they want to be involved). Sometimes things are just meant to be, and you just have to get on and live life afterwards. Things that happen cannot be 'unhappened' so you must accept them and move on - sometimes to better times but always to different ones I hope you have a good outcome, and I will be thinking of you both, Kaz. I will be here if you want to chat. I have often said since moving down here that I wish John could be here too as he loved hills and mountains so much - but I would never have seen him - he'd have been up there in the Ochils all day every day! Keep your chin up.
Annie
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OMG ...So sorry to hear that Kaz.....fingers crossed he comes through ok ...My thoughts are with you and Hubby ... even when he is either asleep or just out of it , keep talking to him ,he may well be able to hear, I could when I had my accident. I heard every word but couldn't move or do anything ....all the best Russ...
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Yes, that's what they told us too so we chatted constantly - well I chatted and John listened - only time I ever got it all my own way ;)
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yes .. it really does help too ....encouraging chat all the time ...Hold his hand if you can , he will feel it !!!! It really does work !!
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I have just been moaning to my OH, so suddenly feel lucky to have been doing so.
Our thoughts and best wishes are with you both. When my daughter was so ill a few years ago and ultimately had a kidney transplant, there were plenty of times I felt like giving up for the both of us, because watching her suffer as she did, I couldn't see any end to it, but somehow I found the strength, and so will you. Take care of you, and remember we are all thinking of you.
Kate :-*
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Bloody hell, thats such a shocking fall. Keeping everything crossed for you. I expect you are exhausted, really sorry. Please do remember to keep us up to date, and get on line when you need cheering up or just let off steam. Wishing you the very best of luck.
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What a reality check, I thought I had a bed week...sooo hope everything goes well and you have the support you need. It is hard in these sort of times to do the mundane stuff like cook, clean etc, life turns into a bit of a haze and one day things suddely hit you...hope this forum provides support for you....my thoughts are with you and your OH
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So sorry, Kaz, praying that everything turns out OK.
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Kaz
Thinking of you and OH, I do hope he makes some progress today and you get some positive news from the Docs.
Jo
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I am so very sorry, everyone else has put it so much better than I can, thinking of you both HM
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Kaz,
Just wanted to echo everyone else's posts and say how sorry I am and my thoughts are with you.
About 10 years ago I faced the same thing with my fiance who was put on a life support machine after he developed fluid on the brain - unfortunately it didn't clear and the decision was made to turn it off. Like Annie says some things just happen and I do believe in fate but it's bloody hard dealing with it and getting on with life.
If you need to talk about it we're all here for you, take care.
Karen x x x
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I am wishing you the strength, and courage, and I hope you are getting the support you need. I will be thinking of you both, good luck for a speedy recovery. I had a bad head injury as a child, and I know my parents were very upset while I was in Intensive care. I was aware of them being there, and other things going on in the ward.I was lucky that I made a good recovery, and I am truly gratefull to the medical people who sorted me out. they know what they are doing. I will always have the cosequences on my medical record, and the effects it has on insurance forms etc. also I have a few scars and dents, which mean my barber always calls me the bowling ball, and won't cut my hair too short. But I am healthy, if not wealthy and thank my lucky stars.
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Certainly puts my very minor worries into perspective ....I'll be thinking of you both.
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hope all turns out well for you kaz best wishes from all at garden cottage...............neil
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Well today went quite well. Head scans normal, MRI scan on spine showed soft tissue damage, so he will have to wear the collar for the time being. They weaned him from the ventilator and was breathing normally, but still giving him oxygen, even though he did not need it. When I left the hospital today they were in the process of waking him up slowly. We now have to wait to see how much damage has been done to his brain, but I must be strong & positive for him.
Thanks everyone, just for being there, perhaps a brighter week will follow the B A one.
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Good luck, all thinking of you here.
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All the best Kaz- we are thinking of you. I can only echo what others have said- and they have put it far better than I ever would. :)
Beth
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Best wishes to you both.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you both. x
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Praying for a full recovery. HM
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Thoughts and prayers for both of you xxxxx
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Kaz, hope your OH is OK. Thinking of you both.
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Thoughs and paryers for both of you. Hope things are improving, I'm only a couple of hours a way if you need any help with your stock.
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Kaz, fingers and toes crossed your husband has a full recovery. Very best wishes.
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Hold on in there, modern medicine and technology, Doctors and Nurses dedication, your family and friends and all the well wishers on this forum are supporting you throughout this difficult time, my thoughts and best wishes to you both. :bfly:
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Kaz, how is it all going? Wishing you all the luck in the world. :bouquet:
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Yesterday they transfered him back to the local hospital for rehabilitation with the option if needed to have further rehab at Morriston, it will save me a 4 hour journey daily.
He is recovering well at this stage, considering that they expected him to die in the beginning.
We are now on the long road of recovery and rehab and I hope & pray that I will get most or if not all of him back.
Thanks everyone, will keep you updated.
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Thats great news, wish you both well :)
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hope all goes well for a full recovery...............neil
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Great news, thinking of you both. :)
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Wonderful news :bfly:
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that is great news Kaz......I had terrible head injuries, skull popped completely open, between the roof of the car and the road in my smash!!, and although I knew what people were saying to me , my responses were very limited for the first six months . However , it got better and better as time went by . I don't think it went back to completely normal ? but good enough . I did an IQ test at six months after the crash and I think I got somewhere about 75 ... that is very very low. I had done them before the crash, and had got 130/136/142 on three seperate tests, all to do with work! The last one I did ,about 1990 ish (memory has gone now !!) was 128 . All these tests go to prove that the brain does repair and work again (even mine !!!!!) so fingers crossed , all will be well !!! Time really is a healer in these cases ( I know exactly what I am talking about on this subject !!) , just don't rush things , take it easy . Any fractures in the neck also heal well . I shattered c1 ? (the vertebrae that connects the skull to the spine ) luckily the spinal chord was ok ( but very swollen ) and d2 ( vertebrae between the shoulder blades ),the spine between the two breaks twisted a bit too , so causes lots of pain and discomfort , BUT , I can function normally ( well more or less) . Some things I shouldn't do ( but still do ) and I had to relearn how to move about , but it can get back to a new normal where everything is fine . So good luck and take each step as it comes , and always look forward to what CAN be done . Sorry for the long post , but I really do know about this sort of thing ... been there done that .. got the t-shirt and the broken bones ....lol ::)
cheers
Russ
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Kaz, I am sorry to read of your troubles and I would like to take this opportunity to wish you and yours
all the very best.
I hope that your husband makes a full recovery and I will pray for the two of you.
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Thanks Russ for all that.
I've been up to hospital this morning to see him, as struggling to do everything here. As I left I said to him that I would see him tomorrow, and his reply was "Why what's happening tomorrow?" the first real sentence he has said so things are looking up.
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That is just terrific!!!!! What a breakthrough. You now know that his brain is functioning as it should. Fingers crossed all round for even more progress, and let him know we are all thinking of him too and wishing him back to a full recovery.
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Good news indeed. My thoughts are with you both. Carole
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So glad things are looking better. We hope that he makes a full recovery.
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Thats fantastic news for both of you, 4 hours travelling is a large weight to be carrying on your shoulders. I have an uncle who sounds a bit like Russ, he gets a lot of bad head pain and grows cannabis to ease his discomfort. The morale is he is alive and kicking, having been told he had less than 5% chance of pulling through. How are you managing to do everything at home too?
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What a lovley way to start a Monday Morning hearing good news like this.
Good luck and keep strong, it deffinately sounds like a happy ending!
Kate x
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:) :) :)
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Bit down today. They are putting a temporary jack into his stomach to feed him this afternoon as he won't tolerate the tube in his mouth. They are also discussing weather to do the rehab at the local hospital, send him back to Morriston or even to Bristol....................
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Hope tomorrow is a better day. You are both in our thoughts. OH had a brain tumour 10 years ago, now fully recovered, but I still remember the worry and daily trips to hospital. Stay positive and remember to look after yourself too.
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Yes do stay positive, it is really hard I know, our son had a nasty fall the day before his 13th birthday, ruptured his kidney was life and death for a long time, infact (call me crazy if you want) but he actually went for a while and came back. He remembers it now and our clairvoyant told us loads of stuff as well. Long and short of it he is fine now thank goodness but it was a very rough ride for a long time.
If ever you want to talk we are here for you
Nicki
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Thinking of you. :bfly:
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Any news on how things are going. I really hope all is going well. I had a bad head injury in 1999, and still suffer from PTSD and PCS.......but it's better than being dead, as I always say. A supportive family unit is a huge positive. It's amazing how many hurdles you can cross with a bit of help and support. You should always try and focus on the positives...they'll help you to get by. Time is a great healer....never loose your faith that things will get better....and above all be strong. My thoughts are with you.
Morgan
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At the moment the progress stinks. He is basically in the local hospital in a surgical ward awaiting rehab in another hospital. He managed to get out of bed twice yesterday the last time they called the doctor to check him over, but what if he hits his head again. I am getting really mad about this as it seems that it is all political in these hospitals. I know he has to wait for a bed, but basic care in the meantime would help. >:( >:( >:(
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hiya hope all is going in the correct direction for you just read the post, I'll tam to light a candle and some prays for you in church. i will also light a candle too at home.
linz
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Thanks Linz I need some help from somewhere before I go the other way as well.
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Take a little time out when you're driving just to appreciate the beauty of the countryside...I know it sounds a little trite, but it works for me mhen i'm not feeling 100%