The Accidental Smallholder Forum
Community => Coffee Lounge => Topic started by: Sandy on December 01, 2010, 01:14:13 pm
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I am all he has.....he is in the midlands and I am in, live Scotland!!!!!! He is an alcoholic but not drank for over 14 years, I had a hell of a time when I was near to him before, had to endure a lot of stress at a difficult time in my life, he eventualy collapsed into a coma and went to hospital and I thought that was him but he recovered very well and gave up both drinking and smoking.....I ring him every week and he has been great until now, had some strange E Mails from him that I found a bit upsetting, so I rang him today and he is drunk, in bed, freezing with no medication!! He added he has to go through the DT's in order to go to get his medication...I told him to ring his Dr and make him aware of the situation, not sure what he is going to do but he said he would....I am shaking with worry now as I dread him being all alone in a house that a lot of homeless would not live in!!!!!!!! I now I cannot do much but wrote this to help me get it off my chest...sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thinking of you. I do hope all will be well.
HELEN
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oh Sandy, how sad for you and him.
Do you have contact for his neighbours, or doctor or anything?
So you can feel you are doing something at least.
thoughts are with you both
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My brother is a recluse, well almost, his house is a tip as he is a bit of a mad bottanist and has bits of things everywhere, worm farms, stuff growing in tanks, no heating, no real bathroom as I think he just washes in his kitchen sink, he has no proper bedding but an electric balcket and bricks holding up his bed, honest my chickens shed is posher, he also was made redundant some 12 years ago and not claimed a penny in benifits since, he lives off his savings and I am sure they must be nearly cleared out but thats not my worry as he will recived his pension very soon, he also has no morgage but he has impressed me for being able to live on his savings for so long and for packing up the booze and fags too as he has only me who he has any contact with at all. I had my suspicians as his E Mails were strange but I have got his Drs name so I may be able to find it but he would go mad if any neighbourgs went around, he hated the fact I went to rescue him before and that Steve visited his house and Steve worked in Hostels and on the streets with homeless!!!! Anyway, I do understand there is little I can do, I worked in drug and alcohol counselling for some time and he is the only one that can do anything at the moment but my biggest fear is him detoxing and going into a coma on his own and knowone being there to help him!!!!!!!!!!
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Poor you, you must be so worried. When we discovered our 50 something neighbour was in grave difficulties OH rang local social services who were fantastic. Can you contact your brother's local SS Dept and chat with someone. Thinking of you both. HM
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THanks, but he has only been drinking for 2 weeks and when I worked in SOcial Services I tried to get a 13 year old lad in care for the night as his mum was particulaly off her trolly on booze but due to his age and her only being temp "disabled" knowone would help so I contacted his dad who lived a long way off and he went there for a few days, I must add, the Lad had Aspergers and could not even make himself a sandwhich, I tried to get him to do things while I waited with him, also, his mum was setting fire to her hair and had fallen down the stairs but still no help so I am not sure they would be interested in someone "just" drunk!!!! I will keep in contact daily and if I do not hear anything for more than 24 hrs I will call for help as I had to before.....police, ambulance etc!!!!
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Let his GP know and even if they give you the brush off ring them back if anything happens to make you more concerned, DTs are a serious medical condition and need treatment. If he doesn't stay in contact you can ring the Police and ask if they can do a welfare check. In the longer term it is down to him but just cos he's fallen off the wagon doesn't mean he can't get on it again.
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THanks, I rang his surgery but the phone rang and rang so I left it for now, he just E Mailed me a few lines and said it took him 2 hours to write, he will book a Taxi tomorrow to get his meds!!! I have seen people with the DT's, several in fact and they all went into comas!!!
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its the snow Sandy... try again in a few days. :)
would the AA or similar be able to help? by "calling in" I mean?
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So sorry to hear that Sandy. There is nothing I can offer in the way of help or suggestions, but I am thinking of you both, and pray that all of this will have a happy outcome.
All the best
Sue
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my thoughts are with you, been where you are and its not a nice place to be, let your thoughts and fears out on here, you have so many friends that will listen :hshoe: :wave:
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I keep getting little E Mails, I think he likes to know I am around so to speak, I went down all similar routes before, the AA did call around and he was happy with that yet he still went into a Coma, I dare say he is far stronger than me and has far less to worry about......I will keep everyone posted!!!
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I live in Birmingham Sandy. If it's anywhere near and you want someone to pop round, give me a pm.
All the best,
Ian
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Thats nice, he keeps E Mailing while he is comming off the drink, if I do not hear or get a message from him on a regular basis I will sort something out, he is in Northamptonshire and is paranoid about what people will say about him.....even if I were nearer there is little I could do other than keep posted like up here, I then hope he has some incentive again as he would love living up here is Scotland, as a Botinist he would like exploring and he also could enjoy a better life with nice walks nearby and the comfort of central heating and a car!!!!!!
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jezusssss I don't know you Sandy but your in my thoughts. what a horrible situation to be in and not to mention the time of year. Hope he comes round and sees sense for both your sakes
Craig
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Hi Sandy! What a time for this to happen, with the weather the way it is!! There has been some excellent advice and even offers of direct help so I really hope you can sort things out for your brother, who sounds highly intelligent, if a little eccentric. I wish you all the best - keep your chin up! :wave:
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Spot on!!! He willl outlive me with all the stress I get!!!! Last time it happened I was looking after difficult to place FOster Children and the girl I had was very hard work, her eyes looked right through you, so.....after a few weeks of sorting things for my brother, I rang him the same time daily as well as getting AA involved (they did call around and take him to a meeting) and I rang his Dr, then one morning, just as my car was picked up for some repair work and my FOster child had gone to School, I phoned and he let one BIG scream down the phone and then a chilling THUD!!!!! I had to ring a Taxi after ringing the police ambulance etc, find the money as I did not have much around, got there to see the police break in and my brother in a coma, they took him off to hospital and I said I would get things sorted then follow later, I got his window fixed as he lives in a high crime area, then borrowed his car, I got to the last roundabout out of the town and broke down, had barly enough money for recovery but then I had to ring my ex, no option, he collected me and then I had to get a baby sitter sorted for the Foster child, that was difficult, he pulled through after a few funny moments in hospital with the DT's but always thought we had taken his wallet, I eventualy got this out of him and suggested he rang the hospital as I knew nothing, I did not evben get the money back for the travel repairs etc, anyway, the ambulance men took it with him but never thought to tell me or my brother, I would not steal a sweetie never mind money!!!!! THe story goes ona little as when he recovered a few days later, I had just been to see him with my partner and he was cracking very funny jokes as he thought he was on a film set, I got home to find the Foster Child had over dosed on her medication and my college friend had just popped around for a visit, she lived 17 miles away and planned to stay the night, trouble was she had just been released from being sectioned due to paranoi and I had to get her brother to come to collect her...that night I remember clearly going up to the toilet and sitting for a bit of peace and having a real laugh to myselff!!!!! SOrry for rambling on but it was a bit funny at the time and I had been through very similar stuff with my mum!!!
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Sandy, I got over the bridge this afternoon, but was scared of not getting back in daylight so didn't come in past, but I'll try again tomorrow and come and see you, I think you need company.
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I poped out but the same, I only went to Tesco and forgot the stuff I wanted, my brother is E mailing me very regularly and I can tell how he is by what he is writing, so am not too worried at the moment...I just hope his detox is going OK, I will ask him!!! THanks.....poor dogs wonder whats happening and my back is getting worse due to no long walks!!!
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Snow's been falling since early - may not get out again today.
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Roads are very slippery, far too dangerouse. My brothers E Mails seem OK at the moment, he is writing them to keep his mind occupied so he knows what he's doing, I shall ring him a lot later as its taken till now to finnish feeding and watering everyone!!!!! Wish I could get him to come for our wedding!!
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I am so happy he has gone onto the internet after years of not being able to, he told me years ago about the internet but for years he has lived off his saveings and he has until now not been on the internet and it has re opened his world. If I only had one wish, I would wish he came back to his routes in Scotland.My brother is a true Pryde!!!!!