Hi bigchicken
Thought I would respond as this was one of the things 2.5years ago which I read a lot about to the extent I confused the heck out of myself. My abattoir is also my butcher and I found them very helpful. They always hang for a few days and so always ask me to email/phone through/handover cutting asks the day after. They also have a standard cutting list which in my experience includes - selection of shoulder and leg joints, pork chops, tenderloin, hocks and belly pieces. I get all the 'spare bits' made into sausages. Plus the trotters and offal and head if I want it.
Since, I ask for a few different things - a couple of back legs tunnel boned so I can brine them for hams (good for Christmas), instead of chops I ask them to cut small bone-in loin joints as I find them brilliant small roasts and sometimes instead I ask for a whole loin/ side so I can make bacon. So when I have two going I often have one cut into standard cutting list and the other into whole loins and large pieces of belly for bacon, plus back legs for hams (tunnel boned) and then the rest into small joints / sausages.
Hope that's helpful input.
Martha