If you have problems then go seek/ask for help.. don't do it by creating a load of drama and problems for everyone else along the way. I believe a lot of this is the fault of all the 'issues' dredged up in soaps and film making folk think that this is the way to behave instead of promoting rationality, self-confidence and self reliance.
I'm all for helping out those that need help but I'm against the contemporary attitude of reducing everything to the lowest common denominator with constant whining about unfair it all is and expecting a lifestyle delivered free on a plate.
Hitching yourself up to a slow drip rate is a pure lottery - neither a determined attempt at suicide nor even a determined cry for help..just playing percentages unless it's really diluted and slow in which case it's pure selfish play-acting.
I am a nurse who used to work in a large regional hospital and Fri, Sat 'take' we would have half a dozen ODs each week on our ward alone, this was nearly 30 years ago. Some were regulars, they took to much, drugs, drink or both and ended up in ITU or on the ward, detoxed and sent out again to reappear next weekend.
What really used to upset me was the cry for help OD's, the woman who had been sexually abused by her son, a women who had found out her husband was having a long tem affair, there were men as well, but the common theme was they didn't know how to cope with enormous stress and distress and could see no other way of showing they were not waving but drowning. To tell some who do not know at 02.00 in the morning that your son has just sexually assaulted you and you were crying shocked in the kitchen and the pills were,just there , to think they should get on with it as they are just selfish....
A cry for help is just as much a symptom of illness as lameness, quick intervention helps not only helps them and their families and also prevents further long term costs to us all. In fact the cry for help often costs us the taxpayer more as they often use paracetamol which is a long slow death from liver failure or they end up with a liver transplant.
People have really high expectations placed on them from all sides, if you are not rich enough, pretty enough, slim enough or earn enough money to support the lifestyle everyone expects, you a deemed by some to be a failure, some can cope by some with being seen as a failure but to a lot it is corrosive, I would rather they whined about it than they took an OD or shot themselves.
I go on thefarmingforum, the stresses some of these men are going through are huge often born stoically, farmers are really good at suicide, I suppose they have a long time on their own to think about it, I like to think the forum helps.
I hope all your family live up to your high expectations and you lose no one close, either in a cry for help or by serious intent.
