Womble - thanks for making me laugh.
Fire building is actually quite a skill. Have a look at Ray Mears, who does the living in the wild stuff, maybe a you tube clip of him lighting a fire. Obviously you don't need to rub two sticks together, but the bits about what to use for getting it going, then how to build the kindling in a pyramid etc is very useful. So just start your fire by treating it like a bonfire.
I tend to make the grate a bit smaller by putting a small log along each side, maybe one at the back too, so the kindling is all in a smaller area. This gives something for the small logs you hope to catch after the kindling has burned, somewhere to rest, without squashing the kindling down and putting out any flames.
We collect all our used tissues, loo roll tubes, and other scrap paper either in empty tissue boxes, or in empty flour bags from bread making. Once alight, these burn for long enough to light the kindling. The trick to get them to light is to tear some bits of the bag so there's a torn surface to catch the flame. Otherwise we use scrumpled newspaper, or on the rare occasions we have fish and chips, the greasy paper they were wrapped in.
We use a lot of willow which has dried for a year under cover as kindling and small wood ( after the sheep have stripped the bark) I find that some more paper or another tissue box on top of the pile seems to draw the flames up through the kindling, which also helps it to catch.
We adjust the air intake carefully - wood burner.
If you have an open fire, you can try the old trick of holding a sheet of newspaper (broadsheet) over the opening. This helps it draw, but often catches fire and disappears up the chimney to cause problems elsewhere
You could also blow into the bottom of the fire.
We find it much easier to light the fire when it's windy outside than when it's a dead calm.
I use those extra long matches, Mr F uses a cigarette lighter. I used to use firelighters, but after endless ridiculing I manage without now.
Finally, lighting the fire seems to be one of those things married couples can't help but squabble about, over all generations. I have a lovely picture in my minds eye of a couple of Neanderthals or cro magnons doing exactly the same thing