I can't touch her udder either, although to be fair she has never liked her udder being touched unless she was in season when she would just drop her rear end and let you do it for a short time. I was told by an experienced goat woman to always feel her udder so she would get used to it but since she has been pregnant and not coming into season not allowed near it! Mine is also a first time kidder and after she was mated there was a noticeable change in her straight away, still a gorgeous girl but totally different, as if she had grown up over night, which I suppose she had really, she is also a pig with food but wasn't fat before and is only big now around belly, think it will take a while to get her used to being milked but as long as she can eat while doing it may be ok.